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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 746681" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>What I love about this program is they really hang in there unless he is really a danger to others in the program which he is not. So I dont see them kicking him out of the program or refusing to work with him. They do set boundaries and limits but they have also shown a real willingness to work with him and figure out his boundaries and limits. So yes I think the hope is to have a conversation with him with all of us and talk about what works for him in terms of his need for privacy etc and our need for safety etc etc. The thing is as it is currently if they text him, and he responds they don’t go over there.... they only go and check on him when he doesn’t respond so when they have cause to be concerned. Or when we do.... but maybe that needs to be better defined I don’t know. Clearly we need to understand better what his issue is. I am also really thankful that they are not very far away so that we can drive an hour and go meet in person which makes it all easier I think.</p><p></p><p>We spent today with my daughter so I did not try to contact him today.... I decided it was probably better to just leave him alone for today anyways.</p><p></p><p>I think there are many examples here where withdrawing support ahs worked well and the person has pullled their life together, gotten clean and done well. Your son and mine are examples where that has not happened. I think some may feel that we have supported and helped my son too often and too much but honestly I at this point believe it is our support and love that have both kept my son alive and kept him from being in more serious trouble and doing hard time in prison. Unfortunately there is no one answer that fits all, we all have to find our own best path at the time.</p><p></p><p>YL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 746681, member: 15801"] What I love about this program is they really hang in there unless he is really a danger to others in the program which he is not. So I dont see them kicking him out of the program or refusing to work with him. They do set boundaries and limits but they have also shown a real willingness to work with him and figure out his boundaries and limits. So yes I think the hope is to have a conversation with him with all of us and talk about what works for him in terms of his need for privacy etc and our need for safety etc etc. The thing is as it is currently if they text him, and he responds they don’t go over there.... they only go and check on him when he doesn’t respond so when they have cause to be concerned. Or when we do.... but maybe that needs to be better defined I don’t know. Clearly we need to understand better what his issue is. I am also really thankful that they are not very far away so that we can drive an hour and go meet in person which makes it all easier I think. We spent today with my daughter so I did not try to contact him today.... I decided it was probably better to just leave him alone for today anyways. I think there are many examples here where withdrawing support ahs worked well and the person has pullled their life together, gotten clean and done well. Your son and mine are examples where that has not happened. I think some may feel that we have supported and helped my son too often and too much but honestly I at this point believe it is our support and love that have both kept my son alive and kept him from being in more serious trouble and doing hard time in prison. Unfortunately there is no one answer that fits all, we all have to find our own best path at the time. YL [/QUOTE]
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