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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 746682" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>What I am thinking about here is that my son has a lot of self-hatred. Not because he was rejected by his birth parents or abandoned by them, so much as that he cannot accept that his birth parents lived such degraded lives. And he feels that he is defined by their degradation. And then repeats it. M says <em>why can't he identify with you and your great love for him and all of the advantages he had?</em> And I don't know the answer. </p><p></p><p>What I am wondering is if your son has self-hatred too and the very thing you love about the program is problematic for him; that they don't give up on him. On some level he may not think he's worth it.Gosh TL. I am just filled with pain here. Do you think it's because of their troubles or do you think it's that and also because they need us? And throw in adoption on top of it; and in my son's case there is his great pain about the illness he contracted at birth, and his mortification about it.</p><p>I don't think this is the issue. What are you to do? What am I to do?</p><p>I believe this too.</p><p></p><p>TL. If you don't mind my asking what is your son's personality like?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 746682, member: 18958"] What I am thinking about here is that my son has a lot of self-hatred. Not because he was rejected by his birth parents or abandoned by them, so much as that he cannot accept that his birth parents lived such degraded lives. And he feels that he is defined by their degradation. And then repeats it. M says [I]why can't he identify with you and your great love for him and all of the advantages he had?[/I] And I don't know the answer. What I am wondering is if your son has self-hatred too and the very thing you love about the program is problematic for him; that they don't give up on him. On some level he may not think he's worth it.Gosh TL. I am just filled with pain here. Do you think it's because of their troubles or do you think it's that and also because they need us? And throw in adoption on top of it; and in my son's case there is his great pain about the illness he contracted at birth, and his mortification about it. I don't think this is the issue. What are you to do? What am I to do? I believe this too. TL. If you don't mind my asking what is your son's personality like? [/QUOTE]
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