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<blockquote data-quote="Smithmom" data-source="post: 740536" data-attributes="member: 23371"><p>Elsi,</p><p>Hospitals have social workers to help with housing, medical bills, welfare. Not your job, its theirs. Suggest you do one of 2 thinga... Call them and ask them to go to his room and help him or my choice would be to tell him to ask the nurse to have them visit him. He doesn't need to lift a finger. He just needs to ask. If he's refusing their help then he doesn't really want help. He wants cash. Are you a helper or a cash machine? Ask him which he wants you to be.</p><p></p><p>If he's calling from the hospital they'll postpone the job interview for 4 weeks till he can do the job.</p><p></p><p>None of his medical or bike bills are yours. Putting your emotion into anger about his behavior, well intentioned, foolish or whatever is wasting and hurting yourself. Yes, he's cavalier about money but if you don't like his attitude don't give it to him. You can't control or change his attitude. Only yourself.</p><p></p><p>This may not be popular on this board but yes, I do know people who have died of the cold. Presumably drunk or high when they fell asleep but it does happen. I cannot agree that it never happens. Not that I am suggesting that we should run out and rescue our kids, provide them places to live or whatever. But ignoring reality is not something I find helpful. I have an addict who falls asleep on heroin or methadone. It is my reality when he's homeless in winter.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Smithmom, post: 740536, member: 23371"] Elsi, Hospitals have social workers to help with housing, medical bills, welfare. Not your job, its theirs. Suggest you do one of 2 thinga... Call them and ask them to go to his room and help him or my choice would be to tell him to ask the nurse to have them visit him. He doesn't need to lift a finger. He just needs to ask. If he's refusing their help then he doesn't really want help. He wants cash. Are you a helper or a cash machine? Ask him which he wants you to be. If he's calling from the hospital they'll postpone the job interview for 4 weeks till he can do the job. None of his medical or bike bills are yours. Putting your emotion into anger about his behavior, well intentioned, foolish or whatever is wasting and hurting yourself. Yes, he's cavalier about money but if you don't like his attitude don't give it to him. You can't control or change his attitude. Only yourself. This may not be popular on this board but yes, I do know people who have died of the cold. Presumably drunk or high when they fell asleep but it does happen. I cannot agree that it never happens. Not that I am suggesting that we should run out and rescue our kids, provide them places to live or whatever. But ignoring reality is not something I find helpful. I have an addict who falls asleep on heroin or methadone. It is my reality when he's homeless in winter. [/QUOTE]
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