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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 750435" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>You don't know he actually has s flat tire. Seems like when he wants money he always comrs up with some catastrophe. Yet he wont work. </p><p></p><p>He can get a job and work for that tire. </p><p></p><p>People who live in cars rarely drive as much s your son. I think he fibs. They all do. Where does he have to drive to that this is an emergency?? He can walk too. Your son.is playing serious mind games with you. Trust me, I was a victim of my kids "emergencies," too. Things happened to Kay that were never her fault and that we had to fix or we didn't love her. Nobody had more catastrophic events than Kay! It was daily.</p><p></p><p>Your history has been to jump each time he says he needs something. I cant stop you. Nobody can. He is your addiction. </p><p></p><p>You will never learn to live through his lies, emergencies that are not, and abuse if you don't or wont stop. This son is your alcohol. Where does he need to drive where a flat tire is an.emergency? What is wrong with his legs? He can't walk? </p><p></p><p>We can.only try to encourage you. Like any addict, we cant stop what you do. This has to come from your deep desire to get well and live your life. Talking about this to you is the same as talking to your son and giving him ad.vice he ignores. Every bit of our thoughts are only as valuable as you think they are.</p><p>i</p><p>i have been there until our lives were on.the line. You have to stop on your own. Just like a drug addict.</p><p></p><p>I have; one possible suggestion. l love Al Anon but it'su not helping you. I suggest going to AA. Listen to the! addicts speak. They will maybe inspire you as well as tell how they quit drinking. Your son's crazy life is your alcohol. I have no doubt that it is very hard to quit your addiction. That is why I suggested AA. </p><p></p><p>Take time to remember THIS moments reality and accept it and accept yourself and accept who your son is and take a healing nature walk. Think before doing. You risk your son never getting his act together because you are always there.</p><p></p><p>One more possible inspiration.</p><p></p><p>I was talking to a man who is an addict, 30 y.ears clean, with a badly addicted son AND an addicted daughter in law. He told me that they were going nowhere until he cut all monetary help. All. </p><p></p><p>They are still addicts and angry at him ,( he knows the addict mindset so he can handle it) and he stands his ground. They are still using, but miraculously they are finding ways to get their necessities met and are becoming more independent. This man told us that addicts are very self centered and that he still is, but he is working on being more other oriented. His wife is lovely. </p><p></p><p>These are long time clients of ours. This man is educated and successful. And he has told us all this because he knows abouti Kay. We are friends after all this time. So I share these words from a once homeless college graduate who he tells us will always be an addict and can never take a sip of beer or he will relapse.</p><p></p><p>Have a great day. Think before you act. Go to AA. Hugs to you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 750435, member: 23706"] You don't know he actually has s flat tire. Seems like when he wants money he always comrs up with some catastrophe. Yet he wont work. He can get a job and work for that tire. People who live in cars rarely drive as much s your son. I think he fibs. They all do. Where does he have to drive to that this is an emergency?? He can walk too. Your son.is playing serious mind games with you. Trust me, I was a victim of my kids "emergencies," too. Things happened to Kay that were never her fault and that we had to fix or we didn't love her. Nobody had more catastrophic events than Kay! It was daily. Your history has been to jump each time he says he needs something. I cant stop you. Nobody can. He is your addiction. You will never learn to live through his lies, emergencies that are not, and abuse if you don't or wont stop. This son is your alcohol. Where does he need to drive where a flat tire is an.emergency? What is wrong with his legs? He can't walk? We can.only try to encourage you. Like any addict, we cant stop what you do. This has to come from your deep desire to get well and live your life. Talking about this to you is the same as talking to your son and giving him ad.vice he ignores. Every bit of our thoughts are only as valuable as you think they are. i i have been there until our lives were on.the line. You have to stop on your own. Just like a drug addict. I have; one possible suggestion. l love Al Anon but it'su not helping you. I suggest going to AA. Listen to the! addicts speak. They will maybe inspire you as well as tell how they quit drinking. Your son's crazy life is your alcohol. I have no doubt that it is very hard to quit your addiction. That is why I suggested AA. Take time to remember THIS moments reality and accept it and accept yourself and accept who your son is and take a healing nature walk. Think before doing. You risk your son never getting his act together because you are always there. One more possible inspiration. I was talking to a man who is an addict, 30 y.ears clean, with a badly addicted son AND an addicted daughter in law. He told me that they were going nowhere until he cut all monetary help. All. They are still addicts and angry at him ,( he knows the addict mindset so he can handle it) and he stands his ground. They are still using, but miraculously they are finding ways to get their necessities met and are becoming more independent. This man told us that addicts are very self centered and that he still is, but he is working on being more other oriented. His wife is lovely. These are long time clients of ours. This man is educated and successful. And he has told us all this because he knows abouti Kay. We are friends after all this time. So I share these words from a once homeless college graduate who he tells us will always be an addict and can never take a sip of beer or he will relapse. Have a great day. Think before you act. Go to AA. Hugs to you. [/QUOTE]
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