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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 628348" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Tish, I am thankful that your grandson is okay. in my opinion, things like this are a good turning point, at least for us. </p><p></p><p>There is always the possibility---no guarantee---that this situation will be a turning point for your son. When a "dramatic event" occurs, like this, or an arrest, or a call to the police, or a visit to the ER, it brings the whole situation into sharp relief.</p><p>For at least a time, it is crystal clear that addiction is in charge and addiction is affecting his life and the lives of those around him. </p><p></p><p>Later, all of the other "stuff" will rush in, like who is responsible, all of the shoulds, guilt, fear, remorse, regret, arrogance, denial, love, shame. But for a brief time, it's just what it is, the facts and the downward spiral. </p><p></p><p>Like you posted above, you are now going to try to get custody of your grandson. A big shift has occurred. </p><p></p><p>Things rock along for a time, but with addiction and mental illness, if both are left untreated, a crisis like this will occur.</p><p></p><p>Addiction is a progressive disease. It doesn't stay the same. Untreated and unarrested, it will get worse. Usually, that means some sort of crisis.</p><p></p><p>Tish, I can imagine that right now you are reeling from yesterday. But I hope you can, in time, come to see this situation as the next step in your son's road to the rock bottom. </p><p></p><p>This is another turning point. There is always a chance that he will start to see how addiction has affected his life, his relationships, his career, his children, his legal status. Then, he might be ready to start to take responsibility for his own life, and start the hard, hard work of change.</p><p></p><p>I am always hopeful that, if I can stay out of the way, and not force a crisis and not rescue my son, that the natural progression of the disease will awaken him to exactly where he is today. </p><p></p><p>That may not happen, and my son's life may end before he "gets it" but I will keep on hoping and praying for that miracle.</p><p></p><p>In the meantime, I will continue working on myself, and let time take its time. I am so glad your grandson is okay and I hope your son and daughter in law can get some help now. </p><p></p><p>Big hugs to you this morning.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 628348, member: 17542"] Tish, I am thankful that your grandson is okay. in my opinion, things like this are a good turning point, at least for us. There is always the possibility---no guarantee---that this situation will be a turning point for your son. When a "dramatic event" occurs, like this, or an arrest, or a call to the police, or a visit to the ER, it brings the whole situation into sharp relief. For at least a time, it is crystal clear that addiction is in charge and addiction is affecting his life and the lives of those around him. Later, all of the other "stuff" will rush in, like who is responsible, all of the shoulds, guilt, fear, remorse, regret, arrogance, denial, love, shame. But for a brief time, it's just what it is, the facts and the downward spiral. Like you posted above, you are now going to try to get custody of your grandson. A big shift has occurred. Things rock along for a time, but with addiction and mental illness, if both are left untreated, a crisis like this will occur. Addiction is a progressive disease. It doesn't stay the same. Untreated and unarrested, it will get worse. Usually, that means some sort of crisis. Tish, I can imagine that right now you are reeling from yesterday. But I hope you can, in time, come to see this situation as the next step in your son's road to the rock bottom. This is another turning point. There is always a chance that he will start to see how addiction has affected his life, his relationships, his career, his children, his legal status. Then, he might be ready to start to take responsibility for his own life, and start the hard, hard work of change. I am always hopeful that, if I can stay out of the way, and not force a crisis and not rescue my son, that the natural progression of the disease will awaken him to exactly where he is today. That may not happen, and my son's life may end before he "gets it" but I will keep on hoping and praying for that miracle. In the meantime, I will continue working on myself, and let time take its time. I am so glad your grandson is okay and I hope your son and daughter in law can get some help now. Big hugs to you this morning. [/QUOTE]
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