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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 377964" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>I, too, understand the complexities and anxieties of adolescence. Like Fran (when I was the primary parent for seven years)</p><p>I was the one who called a spade a spade and enforced basic guidelines. In retrospect I think I did my best. on the other hand, I did insist that he join the cross country team as a Freshman in high school because it seemed like an individual sport that would get him in contact with peers. He survived the year and earned a letter (for regular participation) <strong>but </strong>he prefers to walk alone to the sound of his different drummer. I had him join Interact at the high school and although he liked referring to the group and did participate...he didn't bond with the other kids and decided to run for President. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/redface.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":redface:" title="redface :redface:" data-shortname=":redface:" /> He</p><p>was angry when he wasn't elected to their Board. The most successful effort was a summer theater group where he</p><p>"almost" formed some friendships. Acting gave him an opportunity to express himself via another personality. He was proud of their productions and his roles.</p><p> </p><p>The reason for all the details in this post is to share that even if you step up to the plate and try your best, sometimes our</p><p>difficult child's are more comfortable with their own choices. in my humble opinion you hope for the best and prepare for a rollercoaster. Wish it</p><p>was easy. Wish there was an answer. It's just darn hard work..sometimes with little reward. on the other hand my difficult child knows he has always had me at his side and that gives a sense of safety that he would not have had otherwise. Meanwhile my hair turns grayer each year. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> Good luck. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 377964, member: 35"] I, too, understand the complexities and anxieties of adolescence. Like Fran (when I was the primary parent for seven years) I was the one who called a spade a spade and enforced basic guidelines. In retrospect I think I did my best. on the other hand, I did insist that he join the cross country team as a Freshman in high school because it seemed like an individual sport that would get him in contact with peers. He survived the year and earned a letter (for regular participation) [B]but [/B]he prefers to walk alone to the sound of his different drummer. I had him join Interact at the high school and although he liked referring to the group and did participate...he didn't bond with the other kids and decided to run for President. :blushing: He was angry when he wasn't elected to their Board. The most successful effort was a summer theater group where he "almost" formed some friendships. Acting gave him an opportunity to express himself via another personality. He was proud of their productions and his roles. The reason for all the details in this post is to share that even if you step up to the plate and try your best, sometimes our difficult child's are more comfortable with their own choices. in my humble opinion you hope for the best and prepare for a rollercoaster. Wish it was easy. Wish there was an answer. It's just darn hard work..sometimes with little reward. on the other hand my difficult child knows he has always had me at his side and that gives a sense of safety that he would not have had otherwise. Meanwhile my hair turns grayer each year. :winking: Good luck. DDD [/QUOTE]
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