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It's A New Week, Mikey...How's It Going?
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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 61458" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>That's the point -- neither of you should say boo without consulting the other one first. (Boy, am I glad I'm a single parent and can make all decisions and mistakes on my own!)</p><p></p><p>Quit talking to McWeedy! I mean really quit. Good morning, bye, good night, please, thank you, you're welcome. Nothing more. Be civil but give up the talks and lectures. You know he's using, why bother confronting him and giving him a chance to deny and try to con you? Save your energy.</p><p></p><p>Talk to wife. You two find a page you both can live with. wife has mentioned rehab. So, maybe that is your only option at this time. You have two months to do anything. Most rehab beds are full so find out what's available NOW.</p><p></p><p>Taking all the blame is ridiculous. There is no innocent party between you, wife and McWeedy. You can beat yourself up but it will help no one. It is time to give up the past, change what you can and find some real, constructives things that can be done now. </p><p></p><p>Obviously, you can't just sit back and wait for him to self-destruct or let wife take over. It's just not in you, plus wife will take over until the next mini-crisis and then ask you to take over and then stop you from doing what you think is right.</p><p></p><p>Things you and wife are going to have to do from now on stink. You cannot have wallets and keys laying around. They will have to be on your body at all times (I used to sleep with a fanny pack and my kid wasn't even into drugs). Valuables, especially anything pawnable, need to be put in safe deposit boxes. If jewelry isn't being worn, lock it up! Change your locks and don't give McWeedy a key. He can come and go at the convenience of everyone else.</p><p></p><p>Mikey, you really do have to the things I said above and you have to get wife to understand they have to be done. I've seen what druggies do to their families. Sooner or later, the money runs out, the job is lost, more drugs are used than are being dealt. Stealing cars, credit cards, jewelry, antiques, guns -- whatever they could -- from family, friends, neighbors. It really bites when you wait too long because they haven't happened yet. If for no other reason, do it to protect McWeedy from himself. The less access he has to funds, the less he can use.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 61458, member: 3626"] That's the point -- neither of you should say boo without consulting the other one first. (Boy, am I glad I'm a single parent and can make all decisions and mistakes on my own!) Quit talking to McWeedy! I mean really quit. Good morning, bye, good night, please, thank you, you're welcome. Nothing more. Be civil but give up the talks and lectures. You know he's using, why bother confronting him and giving him a chance to deny and try to con you? Save your energy. Talk to wife. You two find a page you both can live with. wife has mentioned rehab. So, maybe that is your only option at this time. You have two months to do anything. Most rehab beds are full so find out what's available NOW. Taking all the blame is ridiculous. There is no innocent party between you, wife and McWeedy. You can beat yourself up but it will help no one. It is time to give up the past, change what you can and find some real, constructives things that can be done now. Obviously, you can't just sit back and wait for him to self-destruct or let wife take over. It's just not in you, plus wife will take over until the next mini-crisis and then ask you to take over and then stop you from doing what you think is right. Things you and wife are going to have to do from now on stink. You cannot have wallets and keys laying around. They will have to be on your body at all times (I used to sleep with a fanny pack and my kid wasn't even into drugs). Valuables, especially anything pawnable, need to be put in safe deposit boxes. If jewelry isn't being worn, lock it up! Change your locks and don't give McWeedy a key. He can come and go at the convenience of everyone else. Mikey, you really do have to the things I said above and you have to get wife to understand they have to be done. I've seen what druggies do to their families. Sooner or later, the money runs out, the job is lost, more drugs are used than are being dealt. Stealing cars, credit cards, jewelry, antiques, guns -- whatever they could -- from family, friends, neighbors. It really bites when you wait too long because they haven't happened yet. If for no other reason, do it to protect McWeedy from himself. The less access he has to funds, the less he can use. [/QUOTE]
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