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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 477108" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>{{{HUGS}}} That would be grating. Like you said, it is what it is, either he is feeling it or it is attention, but getting that pattern out of him... you may really have to detach. My difficult child says such disrespectful sounding things sometimes I have literally learned to sing little songs in my head to tune him out. I try to "hear" what the behavior is saying...I am frustrated, I am sad, I am angry, I am nervous, etc. If he is anxious/depressed, his thinking may be really distorted. I wonder if a more cogntive based therapy might help for that one thing...replacing thoughts with more accurate thoughts in a systematic way. He wont believe it and he is not expected to at first. Would be interesting to see if therapist could list the distortions and help him correct them then get him to practice saying the right thing over and over for the next several weeks, months, however long it takes. He might need a cue from those in his environment that is pre-agreed on to do his "positive thinking" or whatever they will call it... Just a wild thought. It actually works for ME to do that when I am thinking gloom and doom. Learned it years ago in therapy. but I was trying to think of a way to mix that with what we use for teaching kids new skills.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 477108, member: 12886"] {{{HUGS}}} That would be grating. Like you said, it is what it is, either he is feeling it or it is attention, but getting that pattern out of him... you may really have to detach. My difficult child says such disrespectful sounding things sometimes I have literally learned to sing little songs in my head to tune him out. I try to "hear" what the behavior is saying...I am frustrated, I am sad, I am angry, I am nervous, etc. If he is anxious/depressed, his thinking may be really distorted. I wonder if a more cogntive based therapy might help for that one thing...replacing thoughts with more accurate thoughts in a systematic way. He wont believe it and he is not expected to at first. Would be interesting to see if therapist could list the distortions and help him correct them then get him to practice saying the right thing over and over for the next several weeks, months, however long it takes. He might need a cue from those in his environment that is pre-agreed on to do his "positive thinking" or whatever they will call it... Just a wild thought. It actually works for ME to do that when I am thinking gloom and doom. Learned it years ago in therapy. but I was trying to think of a way to mix that with what we use for teaching kids new skills. [/QUOTE]
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