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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 718250" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Teary</p><p></p><p>I agree with everyone that is is certainly fine for you not to want to see him. I don't want to see my son right now either. Why? Because it makes me weak. It makes me think everything is okay because he looks "normal" but I know his brain is not right. I can't fix his brain. I can't kill myself trying. I can lead him to water (which I have) but I cannot make him drink.</p><p></p><p>Your sister doesn't get it. A lot of us have family and/or friends that don't get it. That's on her, not you. Do not feel guilty for feeling the way you do. </p><p></p><p>This is your son's journey. You have to try to remember that. You can't control what he does or what his consequences are nor should you. Maybe he wasn't doing as well as you thought the past few years but you did not know about it? Either way, maybe this is what needed to happen for him to see that his lifestyle choices are not good and it is not the way he really wants to live.</p><p></p><p>It's hard to watch someone we love so much self destruct but many of us here are in that unfortunate position. All we can do is get help for ourselves so that we can get through it. Our suffering does nothing to help them and even less to help us.</p><p></p><p>Do you see a therapist or have anyone that you can get emotional support from? I think that is key. At least it has been for me. You're going to need some support.</p><p></p><p>We're pulling for you!</p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/group-hug.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":group-hug:" title="group hug :group-hug:" data-shortname=":group-hug:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 718250, member: 15032"] Teary I agree with everyone that is is certainly fine for you not to want to see him. I don't want to see my son right now either. Why? Because it makes me weak. It makes me think everything is okay because he looks "normal" but I know his brain is not right. I can't fix his brain. I can't kill myself trying. I can lead him to water (which I have) but I cannot make him drink. Your sister doesn't get it. A lot of us have family and/or friends that don't get it. That's on her, not you. Do not feel guilty for feeling the way you do. This is your son's journey. You have to try to remember that. You can't control what he does or what his consequences are nor should you. Maybe he wasn't doing as well as you thought the past few years but you did not know about it? Either way, maybe this is what needed to happen for him to see that his lifestyle choices are not good and it is not the way he really wants to live. It's hard to watch someone we love so much self destruct but many of us here are in that unfortunate position. All we can do is get help for ourselves so that we can get through it. Our suffering does nothing to help them and even less to help us. Do you see a therapist or have anyone that you can get emotional support from? I think that is key. At least it has been for me. You're going to need some support. We're pulling for you! :group-hug: [/QUOTE]
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