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<blockquote data-quote="JJJ" data-source="post: 543952" data-attributes="member: 1169"><p>I think a lot depends on what kind of abuse the child suffered, how long they were with the birthparents, their personalities and their unique mix of mental illness/developmental delays. Prior to going the adoption route, I "interviewed" every adopted person that I knew (of course, they were all sane which skewed my results) and the majority did not want to search and those that did were curious, not looking for their 'real' family. </p><p></p><p>I think that SW's should not be putting severely abused children into homes that are building their families through adoption. The dream of children and the horror of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)/etc do not mix well. But I have seen several families who had raised their first set of children (whether birth or adoption), then go back and adopt severly abused children, but their motivation was not to be parents, it was to save a child and that made all the difference in how they survived the ride.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JJJ, post: 543952, member: 1169"] I think a lot depends on what kind of abuse the child suffered, how long they were with the birthparents, their personalities and their unique mix of mental illness/developmental delays. Prior to going the adoption route, I "interviewed" every adopted person that I knew (of course, they were all sane which skewed my results) and the majority did not want to search and those that did were curious, not looking for their 'real' family. I think that SW's should not be putting severely abused children into homes that are building their families through adoption. The dream of children and the horror of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)/etc do not mix well. But I have seen several families who had raised their first set of children (whether birth or adoption), then go back and adopt severly abused children, but their motivation was not to be parents, it was to save a child and that made all the difference in how they survived the ride. [/QUOTE]
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