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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 457082" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px">Hey mutt, I too am a member of the sandwich generation...was so not happy while it was approaching. However, now that we have things in place for my mom, at least that part is easier. And I don't have grands yet, so whew. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px">In regards to your mother, if she owns the home she lives in you should have no trouble finding here appropriate assisted living for her. If she does not, well, then that's a different story because then you have to pay out of pocket initially. I know because physically she's okay,you wouldn't likely consider a nursing home situation but I think you need to consider that your mom can no longer live on her own. Your description of her completely blanking on her dr appointment means that her dementia is fairly well along. It's one thing to forget your medications, another to forget an entire outing or event, within hours, Know what I mean?? Likewise, forgetting her medications is one thing, but have you thought about the possibility of her OVER medicating? What if she thinks she forgot, but takes a double dose? What about forgetting the stove is on? Or what about going out to get the mail and forgetting why she's out there? Not too panic or freak you out, but I seriously think she's ready for a nursing home facility and those are easier to get into than assisted living if she doesn't own her home. Have you discussed with her dr these issues? My mom's DR didn't say boo about his concerns until we initiated the conversation. He had assumed that my sister was caring for my mom, which she was but my sister worked full time so she wasn't always available. Just some food for thought. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px">Food pantries and some shelters around here have diapers for the needy- your son should look into that; also churches help out with that. When difficult child was a baby and her father was a louse, I went to the church for not only food but diapers. They also had formula but I breastfed so that wasn't a need for me. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px">I would help out also like you because it's one thing to see grown ups screw up their lives, but I couldn't allow my grands to suffer either. Perhaps helping them to find other resources would be a way in which you could help without shouldering the burden. You need your income to care for you! Do any of them qualify for partial services such as housing of Medicaid or food stamps to help with monthly expenses, especially the ones related to the babies? Big hugs, you have a lot on your plate.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 457082, member: 2211"] [COLOR=#008080][SIZE=2]Hey mutt, I too am a member of the sandwich generation...was so not happy while it was approaching. However, now that we have things in place for my mom, at least that part is easier. And I don't have grands yet, so whew. In regards to your mother, if she owns the home she lives in you should have no trouble finding here appropriate assisted living for her. If she does not, well, then that's a different story because then you have to pay out of pocket initially. I know because physically she's okay,you wouldn't likely consider a nursing home situation but I think you need to consider that your mom can no longer live on her own. Your description of her completely blanking on her dr appointment means that her dementia is fairly well along. It's one thing to forget your medications, another to forget an entire outing or event, within hours, Know what I mean?? Likewise, forgetting her medications is one thing, but have you thought about the possibility of her OVER medicating? What if she thinks she forgot, but takes a double dose? What about forgetting the stove is on? Or what about going out to get the mail and forgetting why she's out there? Not too panic or freak you out, but I seriously think she's ready for a nursing home facility and those are easier to get into than assisted living if she doesn't own her home. Have you discussed with her dr these issues? My mom's DR didn't say boo about his concerns until we initiated the conversation. He had assumed that my sister was caring for my mom, which she was but my sister worked full time so she wasn't always available. Just some food for thought. Food pantries and some shelters around here have diapers for the needy- your son should look into that; also churches help out with that. When difficult child was a baby and her father was a louse, I went to the church for not only food but diapers. They also had formula but I breastfed so that wasn't a need for me. I would help out also like you because it's one thing to see grown ups screw up their lives, but I couldn't allow my grands to suffer either. Perhaps helping them to find other resources would be a way in which you could help without shouldering the burden. You need your income to care for you! Do any of them qualify for partial services such as housing of Medicaid or food stamps to help with monthly expenses, especially the ones related to the babies? Big hugs, you have a lot on your plate. [/SIZE][/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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