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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 457115" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>It's difficult to be squeezed and I know that at times I felt drained. What helped me was looking for ways to solve obstacles to make things easier for myself. I set mom's medications up for 3 wks at a time. When one week was done, she went to the next zip lock bag. Of course, you could do one week since you are much closer to your mom than I was. Anyhow, you get my drift. Find a way to make it easier. I'm sure there was a day here and there where she would forget night time medications. It wasn't a matter of life and death. Many times, patients in hospitals don't get medications because of testing. They survive missing a dose. Not weekly or even monthly but occasionally. </p><p>If there was someone who offered or was available to help out, I used those resources. A good friend who lived nearby would stop once a week or two to see if she needed groceries. It was offered and I took it. I did take her to dinner when I was in town. </p><p>The biggest mistake is to feel so put out that you end up resenting what you are doing. It makes for an unhappy caregiver. </p><p>I really tried to fit things in to my life so I could care for my family and care for me. There are home health agencies that can come in for a few hrs/day to do basics. I had a woman come 3hrs a day to help mom with cooking meals(mom chopped and helped but couldn't stand to attend the stove or do dishes) for a few weeks until Hospice was ordered. Mom could afford 3hrs with her ssi check. It gave me a measure of comfort to know that she was checked on every day when I was out of town. </p><p></p><p>I know you have to talk things out since this is a new chapter in your life. I did too. Good luck.</p><p></p><p>PS: I ordered 1 box of diapers to be delivered every month for 12months(via amazon) as a new baby gift for the last two. It was a godsend to have them delivered especially in winter and I didn't think either child needed one more outfit or toy. The parents did appreciate it greatly. It's just another way to make things easier on myself. (free shipping and handling)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 457115, member: 3"] It's difficult to be squeezed and I know that at times I felt drained. What helped me was looking for ways to solve obstacles to make things easier for myself. I set mom's medications up for 3 wks at a time. When one week was done, she went to the next zip lock bag. Of course, you could do one week since you are much closer to your mom than I was. Anyhow, you get my drift. Find a way to make it easier. I'm sure there was a day here and there where she would forget night time medications. It wasn't a matter of life and death. Many times, patients in hospitals don't get medications because of testing. They survive missing a dose. Not weekly or even monthly but occasionally. If there was someone who offered or was available to help out, I used those resources. A good friend who lived nearby would stop once a week or two to see if she needed groceries. It was offered and I took it. I did take her to dinner when I was in town. The biggest mistake is to feel so put out that you end up resenting what you are doing. It makes for an unhappy caregiver. I really tried to fit things in to my life so I could care for my family and care for me. There are home health agencies that can come in for a few hrs/day to do basics. I had a woman come 3hrs a day to help mom with cooking meals(mom chopped and helped but couldn't stand to attend the stove or do dishes) for a few weeks until Hospice was ordered. Mom could afford 3hrs with her ssi check. It gave me a measure of comfort to know that she was checked on every day when I was out of town. I know you have to talk things out since this is a new chapter in your life. I did too. Good luck. PS: I ordered 1 box of diapers to be delivered every month for 12months(via amazon) as a new baby gift for the last two. It was a godsend to have them delivered especially in winter and I didn't think either child needed one more outfit or toy. The parents did appreciate it greatly. It's just another way to make things easier on myself. (free shipping and handling) [/QUOTE]
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