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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 656135" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Hi Wendy,</p><p>Welcome!! I am so sorry you had to find us but glad you did.</p><p></p><p>You do not owe him an explaination, however I would tell him something along the lines of "yes, we paid for his rehab and he relapsed as soon as he got out so clearly it was not a wise choice on our part and we don't care to repeat it"</p><p>Your son is not 3, you can't kiss it and make it better. He is a 33 year old man that has made poor choices. He did this to himself.</p><p></p><p>Trust me on this, there is no amount of money you can throw at this that will make it better. Until both of your sons decide for themselves that want to stop using drugs and get help nothing will change for them.</p><p></p><p>As for the guilt, you have nothing to feel guilty about. YOU did not do this, he did. Understand that he wants you to feel guilty, he's counting on it. He's hoping that you will feel guilty so that you will "rescue" him.</p><p></p><p>I've been there, we all have. You see it's the "MOM" in each one of us that wants to make everything better for our children but we can't do that. They are adults and need to do it for themselves. If we as parents continue to rescue them, bail them out, etc.... all we are doing is enabling them and that does not help them.</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry you are going through this but you are not alone.</p><p></p><p>Stay close to this site. Read and learn from all of us who have been through it.</p><p></p><p>It's not an easy journey but I am proof that you can survive having a Difficult Child (difficult child) and go on to have a happy and full life.</p><p></p><p>((HUGS)) to you.............................</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 656135, member: 18516"] Hi Wendy, Welcome!! I am so sorry you had to find us but glad you did. You do not owe him an explaination, however I would tell him something along the lines of "yes, we paid for his rehab and he relapsed as soon as he got out so clearly it was not a wise choice on our part and we don't care to repeat it" Your son is not 3, you can't kiss it and make it better. He is a 33 year old man that has made poor choices. He did this to himself. Trust me on this, there is no amount of money you can throw at this that will make it better. Until both of your sons decide for themselves that want to stop using drugs and get help nothing will change for them. As for the guilt, you have nothing to feel guilty about. YOU did not do this, he did. Understand that he wants you to feel guilty, he's counting on it. He's hoping that you will feel guilty so that you will "rescue" him. I've been there, we all have. You see it's the "MOM" in each one of us that wants to make everything better for our children but we can't do that. They are adults and need to do it for themselves. If we as parents continue to rescue them, bail them out, etc.... all we are doing is enabling them and that does not help them. I am so sorry you are going through this but you are not alone. Stay close to this site. Read and learn from all of us who have been through it. It's not an easy journey but I am proof that you can survive having a Difficult Child (difficult child) and go on to have a happy and full life. ((HUGS)) to you............................. [/QUOTE]
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