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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 150739" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>First of all {{{{{hugs}}}}}. </p><p>I know how hard it is to get through each day when you have that level of tension and stress between your H and you. been there done that with my ex-H, including not speaking.</p><p></p><p>If you are determined to leave, and you are stuck staying put for the next couple of months, it is the perfect time to make your plans and get all your ducks in a row.</p><p></p><p>For example:</p><p>- Don't talk about leaving, especially in front of your H. You want the opportunity to get all your plans in place, and not have him pull the rug out from under you.</p><p>- Put together ALL important papers and other documents that you might need, such as birth certificates, ID, house title documents, medical info for yourself and your children...whatever is important to you. If you can, make copies. Put the originals somewhere safe, outside the house, such as a safe deposit box</p><p>- Start thinking about your finances. Make a budget. Think about how much money you and your children will need to live on, and determine how you're going to finance that</p><p>- Speak to a lawyer, just to find out your options, the rules, what you are required to do and what you are entitled to</p><p>- Speak to a counsellor, line up a therapist or whatever you need to do. Make sure you have a good support network around you.</p><p></p><p>When you have all your plans in place, THAT is the time to leave. You don't want to just walk out, without having a clear idea of where you're going and what you're going to do when you do leave.</p><p></p><p>Just my thoughts, based on experience of working really hard to save a bad marriage, before waking up to the fact that it just wasn't worth saving.</p><p></p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 150739, member: 3907"] First of all {{{{{hugs}}}}}. I know how hard it is to get through each day when you have that level of tension and stress between your H and you. been there done that with my ex-H, including not speaking. If you are determined to leave, and you are stuck staying put for the next couple of months, it is the perfect time to make your plans and get all your ducks in a row. For example: - Don't talk about leaving, especially in front of your H. You want the opportunity to get all your plans in place, and not have him pull the rug out from under you. - Put together ALL important papers and other documents that you might need, such as birth certificates, ID, house title documents, medical info for yourself and your children...whatever is important to you. If you can, make copies. Put the originals somewhere safe, outside the house, such as a safe deposit box - Start thinking about your finances. Make a budget. Think about how much money you and your children will need to live on, and determine how you're going to finance that - Speak to a lawyer, just to find out your options, the rules, what you are required to do and what you are entitled to - Speak to a counsellor, line up a therapist or whatever you need to do. Make sure you have a good support network around you. When you have all your plans in place, THAT is the time to leave. You don't want to just walk out, without having a clear idea of where you're going and what you're going to do when you do leave. Just my thoughts, based on experience of working really hard to save a bad marriage, before waking up to the fact that it just wasn't worth saving. Trinity [/QUOTE]
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