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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 630855" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I'm convinced that no difficult child will change one bit or grow up until the money is cut off. Completely. I don't care why the adult child has no job. I don't care if he/she is bored. I don't care if he/she screams at us or threatens us. I feel it is an act of kindness to cut off the bank as soon as they are old enough to get a job, if they have refused to go or have flunked or dropped out of college.An eighteen year old who has no college aspirations and no job is like a toddler...they also don't go to school and don't work and we pay their bills. And they throw tantrums too when we won't buy them candy. But I truly feel that the money issue is what holds so many difficult children back to acting like children. I also think many pretend they can't get jobs when they just don't want them.</p><p></p><p>Keep the bank closed, Lil. We're here with you, holding your hand. If your son doesn't get a job, tell him, "I'm sorry, but you need to keep trying, like everyone else. This not negotiable. You'll have to try again tomorrow and I'd like to see where you applied." There are job rehabilitation centers too that help people get jobs. There is no reason not to try. Since he has no job experience and no education, he has to try harder than those who do, which, by the way, is his own fault. So even a janitor job is worthwhile for your son. Or flipping burgers full time. They are an honest day's work and he will be maturing. Trust me, he understands the computer applications way more than you do. Do NOT let him have a few days off to see if anyone calls him for the jobs from the fair. Make him continue to act like a grown up. Or he won't. JMO.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 630855, member: 1550"] I'm convinced that no difficult child will change one bit or grow up until the money is cut off. Completely. I don't care why the adult child has no job. I don't care if he/she is bored. I don't care if he/she screams at us or threatens us. I feel it is an act of kindness to cut off the bank as soon as they are old enough to get a job, if they have refused to go or have flunked or dropped out of college.An eighteen year old who has no college aspirations and no job is like a toddler...they also don't go to school and don't work and we pay their bills. And they throw tantrums too when we won't buy them candy. But I truly feel that the money issue is what holds so many difficult children back to acting like children. I also think many pretend they can't get jobs when they just don't want them. Keep the bank closed, Lil. We're here with you, holding your hand. If your son doesn't get a job, tell him, "I'm sorry, but you need to keep trying, like everyone else. This not negotiable. You'll have to try again tomorrow and I'd like to see where you applied." There are job rehabilitation centers too that help people get jobs. There is no reason not to try. Since he has no job experience and no education, he has to try harder than those who do, which, by the way, is his own fault. So even a janitor job is worthwhile for your son. Or flipping burgers full time. They are an honest day's work and he will be maturing. Trust me, he understands the computer applications way more than you do. Do NOT let him have a few days off to see if anyone calls him for the jobs from the fair. Make him continue to act like a grown up. Or he won't. JMO. [/QUOTE]
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