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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 266049" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Well well WELL! This is quite a shock and a surpirse! I'm so happy for you! I'm doing two happy dances. One to revive you and one for our thank you. </p><p> </p><p>I see you've gotten a lot of suggestions and I haven't read through them, but I did glance and a lot of people seem to think restaurant work is good for difficult children. Maybe so. It was NOT a good fit for Dude. And I quote the boss "Dude, you don't need to be there with your buddy - you MOP over here." and points. "Dude, where are you supposed to be right now? EATING off the buffet line?" "YOU WILL PAY FOR THAT OUT OF YOUR $2.15 hr." and they did - the kid wasn't being fed at the group home so when a buddy suggested he come work with him - it lasted 2 days. At the end? And I quote Dude "You can take your mop and shove it up your...." and that was the end of mopping floors and cleaning bathrooms. </p><p> </p><p>He didn't get that food was NOT free - He didn't get that passing food to your friends (other kids in the house) was stealing because 1.) they were starving and 2.) the food was going to be thrown out. He didn't like being told what to do in front of other people...but I will say in hindsight - it was a family owned restaurant. THAT could have had something to do with it. </p><p> </p><p>I don't know SLSH - I think that now Dude is working in construction and he's mechanically inclined he's found his niche. What is it that thank you is good at? WHat is something that you've said DESPITE ALL the bad - that was his redeeming quality? Because Dude was always good with his hands. HE was lousy at putting stuff back together - but now when not putting things back together means not having a running car on the road someday? He puts stuff back together. </p><p> </p><p>Also - how about vocational rehab in your state? There should be one that he can make an appointment with and go get tested to see what they can help him with. </p><p> </p><p>Goodwill here in SC has a program that helps young people get jobs - but they won't allow anyone with a felony record to come work for them. I can't remember if thank you is non-felon or not. </p><p> </p><p>There is also something here called WORK KEYS. IT's a training program in the GED Adult ed program that they can work on to obtain skills for doing a BUNCH of things - and local companies benefit by using work-keys people as they get HUGE tax breaks. </p><p> </p><p>Something that helped Dude belive it or not was volunteering. We have done a lot of that over the years until Dude figured HIS time was worth HUGE bucks...(groan) but when he had court ordered community service we put him at the Salvation Army and were lucky enough to find a manager with a difficult child of her own. And at the Salvation Army? THERE ARE LOADS of recovering people.....up side - THEY understand. Down side? You may be hooking him up with a source. </p><p> </p><p>Also be VERY aware of the companies that run background checks and won't hire felons (if he is) I think an atmosphere like a grocery store with limited hours as a bagger or stocker is good. If he's a night owl - he can probably get on with a crew stocking at night. </p><p> </p><p>Construction seems to fit with Dude so far, and he's already set himself goals on his own, and is getting up, packing lunch etc....it was hard not to but in and say "Well if you......blah blah blah".....and let him find his own way but it's the best thing I never did - as Dude has found his own way. </p><p> </p><p>So in the mean time - if he's not working on a GED - and ALSO - ugh....check with your GED offices. SOME of them will NOT take kids at night despite their age if they were in a Self-contained class. </p><p> </p><p>A little checking ahead helps not set our kids up to feel like a failure out of the shoot. I was shocked when the GED program here said NO to Dude working during the day (so he could pay his probation) and going to school at night. The principal is a shrew. But that's their policy. No SPED kids in night Adult Ed. But let him go to jail because he can't pay his fines. </p><p> </p><p>Has he tried the unemployment office too? </p><p> </p><p>THe biggest hurdles we had were Felony charges, and required Diploma or GED. So tell him the GED is important and shows people he's able to go to a place day after day and does worry about his education. </p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p><p> best of luck thank you - I'm rooting for you!!!!! Always have!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 266049, member: 4964"] Well well WELL! This is quite a shock and a surpirse! I'm so happy for you! I'm doing two happy dances. One to revive you and one for our thank you. I see you've gotten a lot of suggestions and I haven't read through them, but I did glance and a lot of people seem to think restaurant work is good for difficult children. Maybe so. It was NOT a good fit for Dude. And I quote the boss "Dude, you don't need to be there with your buddy - you MOP over here." and points. "Dude, where are you supposed to be right now? EATING off the buffet line?" "YOU WILL PAY FOR THAT OUT OF YOUR $2.15 hr." and they did - the kid wasn't being fed at the group home so when a buddy suggested he come work with him - it lasted 2 days. At the end? And I quote Dude "You can take your mop and shove it up your...." and that was the end of mopping floors and cleaning bathrooms. He didn't get that food was NOT free - He didn't get that passing food to your friends (other kids in the house) was stealing because 1.) they were starving and 2.) the food was going to be thrown out. He didn't like being told what to do in front of other people...but I will say in hindsight - it was a family owned restaurant. THAT could have had something to do with it. I don't know SLSH - I think that now Dude is working in construction and he's mechanically inclined he's found his niche. What is it that thank you is good at? WHat is something that you've said DESPITE ALL the bad - that was his redeeming quality? Because Dude was always good with his hands. HE was lousy at putting stuff back together - but now when not putting things back together means not having a running car on the road someday? He puts stuff back together. Also - how about vocational rehab in your state? There should be one that he can make an appointment with and go get tested to see what they can help him with. Goodwill here in SC has a program that helps young people get jobs - but they won't allow anyone with a felony record to come work for them. I can't remember if thank you is non-felon or not. There is also something here called WORK KEYS. IT's a training program in the GED Adult ed program that they can work on to obtain skills for doing a BUNCH of things - and local companies benefit by using work-keys people as they get HUGE tax breaks. Something that helped Dude belive it or not was volunteering. We have done a lot of that over the years until Dude figured HIS time was worth HUGE bucks...(groan) but when he had court ordered community service we put him at the Salvation Army and were lucky enough to find a manager with a difficult child of her own. And at the Salvation Army? THERE ARE LOADS of recovering people.....up side - THEY understand. Down side? You may be hooking him up with a source. Also be VERY aware of the companies that run background checks and won't hire felons (if he is) I think an atmosphere like a grocery store with limited hours as a bagger or stocker is good. If he's a night owl - he can probably get on with a crew stocking at night. Construction seems to fit with Dude so far, and he's already set himself goals on his own, and is getting up, packing lunch etc....it was hard not to but in and say "Well if you......blah blah blah".....and let him find his own way but it's the best thing I never did - as Dude has found his own way. So in the mean time - if he's not working on a GED - and ALSO - ugh....check with your GED offices. SOME of them will NOT take kids at night despite their age if they were in a Self-contained class. A little checking ahead helps not set our kids up to feel like a failure out of the shoot. I was shocked when the GED program here said NO to Dude working during the day (so he could pay his probation) and going to school at night. The principal is a shrew. But that's their policy. No SPED kids in night Adult Ed. But let him go to jail because he can't pay his fines. Has he tried the unemployment office too? THe biggest hurdles we had were Felony charges, and required Diploma or GED. So tell him the GED is important and shows people he's able to go to a place day after day and does worry about his education. Hugs best of luck thank you - I'm rooting for you!!!!! Always have! [/QUOTE]
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