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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 303926" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>WOW! </p><p> </p><p>Your writing doesn't just read 3T - it takes you there. It makes you smell things, and see things and feel things. Very prolific. I'm not much of a reader because I have a hard time getting into stories that PUT me in a place, but you spent a short amount of time and WHAM - I was there. </p><p> </p><p>I'm not the same age as you, and I don't pretend to have had as many experiences. I have however crammed a lot of life into my years and in some ways lived two lifetimes. Some of which I would gladly give back in exchange for almost anything...Cracker Jack prizes, baseball cards, bird feathers. But my hope or thought was to raise my son and have youth still on my side to enjoy some of my life. Odd thing is that it sounded like a great trade off at the time, but now that I'm here? It's just more time looking to fill more time. </p><p> </p><p>Instead of being a typical empty nester I'm trying very hard to create memories NOW that will be things to look back on when I am 60, 70 or 80. When my now memories are way behind me. I keep telling myself that someday I won't have the things, the people, the time that I do now - so if I make MORE memories and NEW memories now? I'll have THOSE later. </p><p> </p><p>So maybe there is a method in that madness? Perhaps it can give us all a little something to look forward to instead of constantly looking back. Looking back is essential to making the future work. I just know if you're constantly looking backwards you tend to run into a lot of walls. You have a lovely daughter that is growing wings - Make this YOUR time together. Grow HER memories, share EVERYTHING you can with her. Give her something to recall when she is 60 - smells, houses, tastes, sounds...that can be your legacy. You think about what your father and your relatives left - now it's time to start thinking about what footprint YOU are going to leave. It's never too late to make memories. </p><p> </p><p>I'm sorry for your heart hurting. Nothing can make a child leaving easier for a parent, so I won't even try - but ...this is where you get to teach her everything....and leave your mark so that someday when she's talking to her support group she'll tell them about wonderful you. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 303926, member: 4964"] WOW! Your writing doesn't just read 3T - it takes you there. It makes you smell things, and see things and feel things. Very prolific. I'm not much of a reader because I have a hard time getting into stories that PUT me in a place, but you spent a short amount of time and WHAM - I was there. I'm not the same age as you, and I don't pretend to have had as many experiences. I have however crammed a lot of life into my years and in some ways lived two lifetimes. Some of which I would gladly give back in exchange for almost anything...Cracker Jack prizes, baseball cards, bird feathers. But my hope or thought was to raise my son and have youth still on my side to enjoy some of my life. Odd thing is that it sounded like a great trade off at the time, but now that I'm here? It's just more time looking to fill more time. Instead of being a typical empty nester I'm trying very hard to create memories NOW that will be things to look back on when I am 60, 70 or 80. When my now memories are way behind me. I keep telling myself that someday I won't have the things, the people, the time that I do now - so if I make MORE memories and NEW memories now? I'll have THOSE later. So maybe there is a method in that madness? Perhaps it can give us all a little something to look forward to instead of constantly looking back. Looking back is essential to making the future work. I just know if you're constantly looking backwards you tend to run into a lot of walls. You have a lovely daughter that is growing wings - Make this YOUR time together. Grow HER memories, share EVERYTHING you can with her. Give her something to recall when she is 60 - smells, houses, tastes, sounds...that can be your legacy. You think about what your father and your relatives left - now it's time to start thinking about what footprint YOU are going to leave. It's never too late to make memories. I'm sorry for your heart hurting. Nothing can make a child leaving easier for a parent, so I won't even try - but ...this is where you get to teach her everything....and leave your mark so that someday when she's talking to her support group she'll tell them about wonderful you. :winking: [/QUOTE]
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