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<blockquote data-quote="whatamess" data-source="post: 570167" data-attributes="member: 7664"><p>There is a bit of a pattern to Malika's posts, which indicate to me an overall need to somehow have a disorder explain how J fits (or doesn't fit) into a very narrow set of parameters regarded as "normal". Personally, I think differences are so discriminated against, that differences in movement, sensory, or learning to read have to be categorized as right (normal) or wrong (disability). I really think that even if J were at some point diagnosed with a learning disability or adhd or whatever it still comes round to how each parent will support that child. I think it is fair to look at the posts Malika presents when things are going swimmingly and J is progressing, to a fleeting comment about a particular struggle, to that struggle now becoming a big focus, remediation (consisting of rules laid out, changes in routine, more 1:1 help, etc), and within days to weeks J has learned enough or routines or boundaries are changed enough that he is functioning up to par. I see this as parenting a bright and strong-willed child and needing to be right there with him, I don't see this as indicative of disability. But that is my opinion and really that is all we as distant onlookers can say. For J, I just feel a need to counter a bit of the immediate throwing out of diagnosis's to Malika because I think it is not to J's benefit. I do see Malika as a very concerned and effortful parent who very obviously cares about her son. As always any of us can take or throw away any and all of what anyone else has to say. Just trying to give a different perspective. I think J sounds like a delightful child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="whatamess, post: 570167, member: 7664"] There is a bit of a pattern to Malika's posts, which indicate to me an overall need to somehow have a disorder explain how J fits (or doesn't fit) into a very narrow set of parameters regarded as "normal". Personally, I think differences are so discriminated against, that differences in movement, sensory, or learning to read have to be categorized as right (normal) or wrong (disability). I really think that even if J were at some point diagnosed with a learning disability or adhd or whatever it still comes round to how each parent will support that child. I think it is fair to look at the posts Malika presents when things are going swimmingly and J is progressing, to a fleeting comment about a particular struggle, to that struggle now becoming a big focus, remediation (consisting of rules laid out, changes in routine, more 1:1 help, etc), and within days to weeks J has learned enough or routines or boundaries are changed enough that he is functioning up to par. I see this as parenting a bright and strong-willed child and needing to be right there with him, I don't see this as indicative of disability. But that is my opinion and really that is all we as distant onlookers can say. For J, I just feel a need to counter a bit of the immediate throwing out of diagnosis's to Malika because I think it is not to J's benefit. I do see Malika as a very concerned and effortful parent who very obviously cares about her son. As always any of us can take or throw away any and all of what anyone else has to say. Just trying to give a different perspective. I think J sounds like a delightful child. [/QUOTE]
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