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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 180195" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 12px">Well, we're back (difficult child and I) from meeting my brother for his leg of mom's stay. It was a pleasant ride, in spite of the torrential rains all the way there! Man, I hate driving in the rain.</span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 12px">I had downloaded some oldie music of my mom's onto my iPod to listen to on the way. It was such a joy to hear her singing along with the songs (getting most of the words wrong as she's always done - hahah). I let her eat a buttered bagel on the way - her one joy, full strength white breads and butter! Ick.</span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 12px">Thank you for your kind words. I am the youngest of five siblings and feel lucky that despite having me at an time in life when most other mothers were way past the point of being finished with pregnancy, my mother was so sharp and 'hip' on the inside. She didn't always do things 'normal' and our house was a nightmare at times, but she was pretty cool most of the time. Seriously, the woman was way beyond her years - I guess that's another reason it kills me to see and hear her so confused. </span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 12px">Anyway, she sang along with all the songs, old and new, tapped her feet, and danced in her seat. </span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 12px">She asked me how many kids she had before we met up with my brother - that was horrifying, but it is what it is.</span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 12px">Witz, we have 4 nursing homes picked out that we've applied to so things are in the works. Each one said there is about a 3-5 month wait list. We'r keeping our fingers crossed she gets into one of the first two, which is more likely. The best is that not only are they really nice places with excellent staff and come recommended by friends, but they are both also within 10 minutes of both my house and my sisters - we're thrilled. I think we can swing things for that length of time. Any longer than that and I think things would get crazy. She's too far gone for assisted living and almost all of them up here in CT are private pay, which even all five of us together wouldn't be able to swing - we all have kids in college! I am holding a positive thought that our prayers will be answered and the Universe will make it happen. In the meantime, I know it sounds sick, but I pray that my mom is taken peacefully because I know that inside she will die when the realization hits on some level that she's in an institution - no matter how nice they are, it's still an institution. She told me the other day she'd take poison if we tried to put her in a home. I asked her where she would get the poison and she said, "Don't you worry about it, I have my ways..." Hahaha. She's such a tough old bird. And yet, a not so tough little toddler at the same time. I just hugged her and told her not to worry about later - lets just enjoy the moment. </span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'">Star, I just about peed my pants laughing when I read "<span style="color: red">I'm glad she's (difficult child) stayed away from the apechild. (visions of knuckles dragging the ground and her putting old fashioned roller skates under his hands to keep them from getting bad)</span><span style="color: black">" - Too funny!</span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">Susie, we had all the papers drawn up with an attorney - it's durable throughout the US, so we're good. Thank you. </span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">I think she will be okay with my brother for a few days. I told him everything he needs to know and made a list of what her schedule is and what foods she's been eating here. I can't control what he does in his house, only in mine. Thanks again~</span></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 180195, member: 2211"] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3]Well, we're back (difficult child and I) from meeting my brother for his leg of mom's stay. It was a pleasant ride, in spite of the torrential rains all the way there! Man, I hate driving in the rain.[/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3]I had downloaded some oldie music of my mom's onto my iPod to listen to on the way. It was such a joy to hear her singing along with the songs (getting most of the words wrong as she's always done - hahah). I let her eat a buttered bagel on the way - her one joy, full strength white breads and butter! Ick.[/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3]Thank you for your kind words. I am the youngest of five siblings and feel lucky that despite having me at an time in life when most other mothers were way past the point of being finished with pregnancy, my mother was so sharp and 'hip' on the inside. She didn't always do things 'normal' and our house was a nightmare at times, but she was pretty cool most of the time. Seriously, the woman was way beyond her years - I guess that's another reason it kills me to see and hear her so confused. [/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3]Anyway, she sang along with all the songs, old and new, tapped her feet, and danced in her seat. [/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3]She asked me how many kids she had before we met up with my brother - that was horrifying, but it is what it is.[/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3]Witz, we have 4 nursing homes picked out that we've applied to so things are in the works. Each one said there is about a 3-5 month wait list. We'r keeping our fingers crossed she gets into one of the first two, which is more likely. The best is that not only are they really nice places with excellent staff and come recommended by friends, but they are both also within 10 minutes of both my house and my sisters - we're thrilled. I think we can swing things for that length of time. Any longer than that and I think things would get crazy. She's too far gone for assisted living and almost all of them up here in CT are private pay, which even all five of us together wouldn't be able to swing - we all have kids in college! I am holding a positive thought that our prayers will be answered and the Universe will make it happen. In the meantime, I know it sounds sick, but I pray that my mom is taken peacefully because I know that inside she will die when the realization hits on some level that she's in an institution - no matter how nice they are, it's still an institution. She told me the other day she'd take poison if we tried to put her in a home. I asked her where she would get the poison and she said, "Don't you worry about it, I have my ways..." Hahaha. She's such a tough old bird. And yet, a not so tough little toddler at the same time. I just hugged her and told her not to worry about later - lets just enjoy the moment. [/SIZE][/FONT] [SIZE=3][FONT=Garamond]Star, I just about peed my pants laughing when I read "[COLOR=red]I'm glad she's (difficult child) stayed away from the apechild. (visions of knuckles dragging the ground and her putting old fashioned roller skates under his hands to keep them from getting bad)[/COLOR][COLOR=black]" - Too funny![/COLOR][/FONT][/SIZE] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]Susie, we had all the papers drawn up with an attorney - it's durable throughout the US, so we're good. Thank you. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]I think she will be okay with my brother for a few days. I told him everything he needs to know and made a list of what her schedule is and what foods she's been eating here. I can't control what he does in his house, only in mine. Thanks again~[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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