Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
General Discussions
The Watercooler
jump in, stay out? confused what to do?
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 614143" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Are all these kids in class together? If not I'm going to assume they all go to the same school. </p><p></p><p>I would praise difficult child for not only standing by her friend but being willing to come to her defense if the need should arise. Sadly, that doesn't happen often enough these days. </p><p></p><p>Then? Well, I know there are bullying rules in place yadda yadda but honestly I've yet to see where they've done any realistic good. </p><p></p><p>You can and should report it. However you might want to try an outside the box approach. Hopefully the school will be cooperative as it could wind up being a valuable learning experience for all of the kids involved and even many not directly involved. </p><p></p><p>I think Travis was in the 4th grade when the other kids just really started making his life miserable. His vision was going to pot and he had to wear sports glasses (unattractive at best) because otherwise he broke his glasses every other week. There were the social / autistic issues / developmental issues that were becoming more dramatically pronounced as he lost distance with his peer group. The boy has a severely under developed sphincter muscle at the top of his stomach and regurgitates everything that goes into the stomach, making some icky noises and for some horrid breath. </p><p></p><p>Long story short, I opted out of punishing the students making him miserable. Instead I got with the teacher via phone with an idea. The students were old enough to understand Travis' dxes if they were explained in terms they could understand. But that wasn't all. We came up with visual effects to give them some perspective on what his day is like. </p><p></p><p>Most 4th graders anatomy knowledge is very limited. We used a 2 liter bottle of soda to demonstrate his stomach issue..... simple and effective. For the vision issue.....cheap drug store glasses with clear plastic to distort anything they looked at. She even came up with "work sheets" somehow to show them the issues he has with language ect. She did a very good job explaining his dxes in terms the kids could "get". It let them see that his behaviors weren't on purpose, nor could he change them, it also let them see what he struggled with day in and day out and never complained. </p><p></p><p>I didn't know if it would work. If it didn't the school could fall back on policy. But it worked wonderfully. The kids were far more tolerant and understanding, even helpful. The rest of his year went great. </p><p></p><p>It not only benefited Travis, but it benefited every child in his class. It is easy to lash out at something you don't understand. However it doesn't feel very good when they were wearing the glasses the teacher made and had difficulty participating or even navigating the classroom while the other kids laughed until it was their turn............It's much harder to lash out when you've stepped into their shoes, even for a few minutes. </p><p></p><p>Being teens they have the capacity to understand far more than 4th graders. Perhaps they just need someone to explain and show them.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 614143, member: 84"] Are all these kids in class together? If not I'm going to assume they all go to the same school. I would praise difficult child for not only standing by her friend but being willing to come to her defense if the need should arise. Sadly, that doesn't happen often enough these days. Then? Well, I know there are bullying rules in place yadda yadda but honestly I've yet to see where they've done any realistic good. You can and should report it. However you might want to try an outside the box approach. Hopefully the school will be cooperative as it could wind up being a valuable learning experience for all of the kids involved and even many not directly involved. I think Travis was in the 4th grade when the other kids just really started making his life miserable. His vision was going to pot and he had to wear sports glasses (unattractive at best) because otherwise he broke his glasses every other week. There were the social / autistic issues / developmental issues that were becoming more dramatically pronounced as he lost distance with his peer group. The boy has a severely under developed sphincter muscle at the top of his stomach and regurgitates everything that goes into the stomach, making some icky noises and for some horrid breath. Long story short, I opted out of punishing the students making him miserable. Instead I got with the teacher via phone with an idea. The students were old enough to understand Travis' dxes if they were explained in terms they could understand. But that wasn't all. We came up with visual effects to give them some perspective on what his day is like. Most 4th graders anatomy knowledge is very limited. We used a 2 liter bottle of soda to demonstrate his stomach issue..... simple and effective. For the vision issue.....cheap drug store glasses with clear plastic to distort anything they looked at. She even came up with "work sheets" somehow to show them the issues he has with language ect. She did a very good job explaining his dxes in terms the kids could "get". It let them see that his behaviors weren't on purpose, nor could he change them, it also let them see what he struggled with day in and day out and never complained. I didn't know if it would work. If it didn't the school could fall back on policy. But it worked wonderfully. The kids were far more tolerant and understanding, even helpful. The rest of his year went great. It not only benefited Travis, but it benefited every child in his class. It is easy to lash out at something you don't understand. However it doesn't feel very good when they were wearing the glasses the teacher made and had difficulty participating or even navigating the classroom while the other kids laughed until it was their turn............It's much harder to lash out when you've stepped into their shoes, even for a few minutes. Being teens they have the capacity to understand far more than 4th graders. Perhaps they just need someone to explain and show them. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
General Discussions
The Watercooler
jump in, stay out? confused what to do?
Top