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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 683073" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Again, the board has turned into a difficult adult child board. Almost completely. I don't know when that happened or why and it doesn't affect me. I'm here just to sort of support and give my experience because I'm not having difficulties now with any of my kids at this time. I have had experience with difficult k ids of all ages, if only because we fostered and saw a lot.</p><p></p><p>What reminded me of w hat this board used to be is t hat I have a difficult granddaughter who is probably not going to be tested soon. She is under two. I didn't post because, as I thought of it, I also thought, "Yeah, but who is going to even answer? We only care about adult children these days."</p><p></p><p>And I'm not sorry I didn't post. I don't know many people here who have kids young enough that they can even relate to her and I can't imagine getting productive feedback for a baby who tantrums way more than is the norm...and who has other problems too. So different from the older days. I get it t hat we suffer when our adult children go off the rails, but we suffer when our younger children, who still have to live with us and whom we are responsible for, are going off the rails or if they are different. And there is no support for that anymore. Proof that is we have taken down the Under age 5 board. I doubt five members here ever heard of "The Explosive Child." And few know about how to fight Special Education in a productive way...and know Wrights Law.</p><p></p><p>The parents of young children have been pretty much gone for a while. It is almost exclusively a board for adult children who have substance abuse and/or mental health issues, but there is almost always at least pot involved and that IS a substance that affects certain adults in a very bad way, much like alcohol can. So it's kind of a board for this issue t he most...substance abuse. The dynamic is totally different. And I don't think we'll be getting our younger parents back.</p><p></p><p>There is also a lack of understanding about mental illness. For example, it's a fact that no matter if you throw out a schizophrenic adult and give him "consequences", it is not going to help him. He may no longer be in the home to be a threat, and that's good, but he lacks the rational thinking to connect the dots, realize he needs help, and get it. Anad that is bad. A schizophrenic adult is not failure to launch...he is severely mentally ill and out of touch with reality.Often they think the CIA is tracking them or everyone can see them on TV. They're going to trust centers for mental health? Nope. They will truly believe that these people are out to maybe kill them too...and it is NOT their faults that their brains have betrayed them. This is day and night from non-psychotic depression. I have had depression and you know reality. Your perception of life is impaired as in "I will never get better", but you CAN get psychiatric help. You can make the appointment and go. You don't believe the pills you are given are poison and meant to kill you because the CIA wants you dead. Schizophrenics very well may feel that way. Apples and oranges here.</p><p></p><p>Would help in my opinion if there was an information part of the board about mental health issues and neurological differences and problems caused by in utero drug exposure, adoption issues, and head trauma. We can't just keep giving the exact same advice to everyone. Yes, I have done it too, but it doesnt help the parent and the parent must feel misunderstood too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 683073, member: 1550"] Again, the board has turned into a difficult adult child board. Almost completely. I don't know when that happened or why and it doesn't affect me. I'm here just to sort of support and give my experience because I'm not having difficulties now with any of my kids at this time. I have had experience with difficult k ids of all ages, if only because we fostered and saw a lot. What reminded me of w hat this board used to be is t hat I have a difficult granddaughter who is probably not going to be tested soon. She is under two. I didn't post because, as I thought of it, I also thought, "Yeah, but who is going to even answer? We only care about adult children these days." And I'm not sorry I didn't post. I don't know many people here who have kids young enough that they can even relate to her and I can't imagine getting productive feedback for a baby who tantrums way more than is the norm...and who has other problems too. So different from the older days. I get it t hat we suffer when our adult children go off the rails, but we suffer when our younger children, who still have to live with us and whom we are responsible for, are going off the rails or if they are different. And there is no support for that anymore. Proof that is we have taken down the Under age 5 board. I doubt five members here ever heard of "The Explosive Child." And few know about how to fight Special Education in a productive way...and know Wrights Law. The parents of young children have been pretty much gone for a while. It is almost exclusively a board for adult children who have substance abuse and/or mental health issues, but there is almost always at least pot involved and that IS a substance that affects certain adults in a very bad way, much like alcohol can. So it's kind of a board for this issue t he most...substance abuse. The dynamic is totally different. And I don't think we'll be getting our younger parents back. There is also a lack of understanding about mental illness. For example, it's a fact that no matter if you throw out a schizophrenic adult and give him "consequences", it is not going to help him. He may no longer be in the home to be a threat, and that's good, but he lacks the rational thinking to connect the dots, realize he needs help, and get it. Anad that is bad. A schizophrenic adult is not failure to launch...he is severely mentally ill and out of touch with reality.Often they think the CIA is tracking them or everyone can see them on TV. They're going to trust centers for mental health? Nope. They will truly believe that these people are out to maybe kill them too...and it is NOT their faults that their brains have betrayed them. This is day and night from non-psychotic depression. I have had depression and you know reality. Your perception of life is impaired as in "I will never get better", but you CAN get psychiatric help. You can make the appointment and go. You don't believe the pills you are given are poison and meant to kill you because the CIA wants you dead. Schizophrenics very well may feel that way. Apples and oranges here. Would help in my opinion if there was an information part of the board about mental health issues and neurological differences and problems caused by in utero drug exposure, adoption issues, and head trauma. We can't just keep giving the exact same advice to everyone. Yes, I have done it too, but it doesnt help the parent and the parent must feel misunderstood too. [/QUOTE]
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