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<blockquote data-quote="beam-me-up" data-source="post: 683341" data-attributes="member: 20174"><p>I am new here and very grateful I found you all. You are a lovely group of warm, welcoming and courageous people, generous with your experience and your support. Even so, I do not know if this is the right group for me.</p><p></p><p>If it is worth anything, here is my observation. </p><p></p><p>My problem child is still early teens. My second child is only 12. The posts in the PE board make heartbreaking, terrifying reading but they are not what I need right now. In fact, at this stage of my journey, in reading these experiences I am afraid that if my Difficult Child is diagnosed with a real conduct disorder, then her future is likely to be very bleak and there seems to be little I can do.</p><p></p><p>I am not at a point in my life where I could consider going No Contact - even if I wanted to. That is not an option no mater how wild it gets. I think what I need are suggestions and recommendations about what does work. How you deflate a situation when it starts to get out of hand. How you approached the subject of your child's disorder for the first time with family or neighbours. What do I say to my neighbours when they hear glass crashing an screaming coming from my house and ask if anyone got hurt?</p><p></p><p>The stories in PE are so BIG. I guess what I am saying is, what are the small steps' The daily routines that just help you get through the day and get everything back on keel as soon as possible after a rage? </p><p></p><p>I wonder if many posting in PE, started in General and have 'graduated' to PE as their teen children progressed? If so, then you will have felt the way I feel now, so horrified at the prospect of what lies ahead, confused about what it all means, afraid to do the wrong thing and totally lost about what I can do to help my little family get through this. </p><p></p><p>I think a lot of people find this forum the way I did. By searching for things like teen rage, is my kid bipolar, etc. If that is the case, like me they will stick around and read all the posts looking for anything that might help in the now. Today. When she starts menacing us all again. </p><p></p><p>Here is an example. When she rages she invades my body space. Comes right up in my face with her eyes flat and scary as all hell. I am determined not to show that I am afraid so I do not give ground and I glare back at her. Is this the right thing to do. I don't want to appear weak but maybe I should be dropping my eyes and making myself small? </p><p></p><p>Maybe there is not one answer, but knowing what has worked for you in the middle of a meltdown would be so very helpful.</p><p></p><p>I truly hope I have not offended anyone by saying any of this. You have made me welcome and helped me every time I posted.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="beam-me-up, post: 683341, member: 20174"] I am new here and very grateful I found you all. You are a lovely group of warm, welcoming and courageous people, generous with your experience and your support. Even so, I do not know if this is the right group for me. If it is worth anything, here is my observation. My problem child is still early teens. My second child is only 12. The posts in the PE board make heartbreaking, terrifying reading but they are not what I need right now. In fact, at this stage of my journey, in reading these experiences I am afraid that if my Difficult Child is diagnosed with a real conduct disorder, then her future is likely to be very bleak and there seems to be little I can do. I am not at a point in my life where I could consider going No Contact - even if I wanted to. That is not an option no mater how wild it gets. I think what I need are suggestions and recommendations about what does work. How you deflate a situation when it starts to get out of hand. How you approached the subject of your child's disorder for the first time with family or neighbours. What do I say to my neighbours when they hear glass crashing an screaming coming from my house and ask if anyone got hurt? The stories in PE are so BIG. I guess what I am saying is, what are the small steps' The daily routines that just help you get through the day and get everything back on keel as soon as possible after a rage? I wonder if many posting in PE, started in General and have 'graduated' to PE as their teen children progressed? If so, then you will have felt the way I feel now, so horrified at the prospect of what lies ahead, confused about what it all means, afraid to do the wrong thing and totally lost about what I can do to help my little family get through this. I think a lot of people find this forum the way I did. By searching for things like teen rage, is my kid bipolar, etc. If that is the case, like me they will stick around and read all the posts looking for anything that might help in the now. Today. When she starts menacing us all again. Here is an example. When she rages she invades my body space. Comes right up in my face with her eyes flat and scary as all hell. I am determined not to show that I am afraid so I do not give ground and I glare back at her. Is this the right thing to do. I don't want to appear weak but maybe I should be dropping my eyes and making myself small? Maybe there is not one answer, but knowing what has worked for you in the middle of a meltdown would be so very helpful. I truly hope I have not offended anyone by saying any of this. You have made me welcome and helped me every time I posted. [/QUOTE]
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