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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 683389" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Hi Beam Me Up</p><p></p><p>I had not had a chance to welcome you. Welcome.</p><p>I agree with Cedar.</p><p></p><p>Create what you need. The parents on the board have gone through exactly what you have, or something close.</p><p></p><p>Every single time you have a question or doubt or challenge, start a new thread with the specific issue. Posting itself helps because the process of forming the idea in your head to communicate it itself is actually healing. We dispel emotion and we create calm</p><p></p><p>It is not the answers, the content that make the difference it is the questions that you ask. The healing is in the questions. As posters respond, you will clarify your thinking and your behavior. Posting changes you. Not what you learn, what you create.</p><p></p><p>I would prioritize among these questions, what feels most urgent now, and as Cedar suggests, create threads, one by one. Maybe one or two a week. And as other problems come up, do the same. This way you will create yourself anew. This is what you are doing here as you deal with your daughter, really, I think.</p><p>Finally, a conduct disorder diagnosis, really, is no diagnosis at all. It is a place holder. If you look at it, really, it is a cluster of behaviors. Difficult child behaviors. It is a provisional diagnosis really, until the real driver of the child's behavior manifests itself. Or, the driver could have been the uniqueness of the child and her way of driving through to maturity.</p><p>Many if not the majority of our children are working, stop drugs, get married, have children, go to college. It turns out, for many, to have been their way of working through who they are and getting to the next phase.</p><p></p><p>The important thing here is you. That you are supported and your needs are met and that you understand what you need and validate yourself. Doing the best you can as a parent is important. Yes. Do not leave yourself behind.</p><p></p><p>If you stay here, whether or not this board is the best one, you will find support for you, and for your child.</p><p></p><p>Take care. Keep posting.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 683389, member: 18958"] Hi Beam Me Up I had not had a chance to welcome you. Welcome. I agree with Cedar. Create what you need. The parents on the board have gone through exactly what you have, or something close. Every single time you have a question or doubt or challenge, start a new thread with the specific issue. Posting itself helps because the process of forming the idea in your head to communicate it itself is actually healing. We dispel emotion and we create calm It is not the answers, the content that make the difference it is the questions that you ask. The healing is in the questions. As posters respond, you will clarify your thinking and your behavior. Posting changes you. Not what you learn, what you create. I would prioritize among these questions, what feels most urgent now, and as Cedar suggests, create threads, one by one. Maybe one or two a week. And as other problems come up, do the same. This way you will create yourself anew. This is what you are doing here as you deal with your daughter, really, I think. Finally, a conduct disorder diagnosis, really, is no diagnosis at all. It is a place holder. If you look at it, really, it is a cluster of behaviors. Difficult child behaviors. It is a provisional diagnosis really, until the real driver of the child's behavior manifests itself. Or, the driver could have been the uniqueness of the child and her way of driving through to maturity. Many if not the majority of our children are working, stop drugs, get married, have children, go to college. It turns out, for many, to have been their way of working through who they are and getting to the next phase. The important thing here is you. That you are supported and your needs are met and that you understand what you need and validate yourself. Doing the best you can as a parent is important. Yes. Do not leave yourself behind. If you stay here, whether or not this board is the best one, you will find support for you, and for your child. Take care. Keep posting. [/QUOTE]
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