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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 691088" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>Forgive me for asking the obvious, maybe it's been made clear and I've forgotten...do you live in the same area as your grandson? If so, and you don't work yourself, have you talked to his dad about letting you keep him when he's working? It sounds like grandpa just hasn't got the ability to look after him with all he's dealing with. That would be the way to approach it..."Your father isn't well, I would be so happy to help him this way." Or, do an end-run around dad and talk directly to grandpa, "If you ever need anyone to watch little Johnny, I'd be so happy to help out. I'd keep him every day if I could." </p><p></p><p>If this isn't possible, keep in mind that what you see as neglectful, may be colored a bit by your love and desire to take care of the little guy. Grandpa can barely get around...but lots of handicapped people who can barely get around raise children just fine. His house is a pig-sty? That may be in the eye of the beholder. My house would probably be a pig-sty to you. (No, really, I'm a terrible housekeeper. I have dust thick on everything, mud from the dogs feet caked on the floor near the kitchen, the dishes are piled and I can't remember the last time I cleaned the toilets - I keep hoping my husband will do it.) My point is, messy - and even dirty - doesn't mean the child is neglected there. Unless you're talking feces, mold and flies, it's probably not CPS-worthy.</p><p></p><p>But in the end, if you can do nothing else, you can get the little guy as often as you can and show him a loving, stable home and be a ideal for him...a grandma who loves and cherishes him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 691088, member: 17309"] Forgive me for asking the obvious, maybe it's been made clear and I've forgotten...do you live in the same area as your grandson? If so, and you don't work yourself, have you talked to his dad about letting you keep him when he's working? It sounds like grandpa just hasn't got the ability to look after him with all he's dealing with. That would be the way to approach it..."Your father isn't well, I would be so happy to help him this way." Or, do an end-run around dad and talk directly to grandpa, "If you ever need anyone to watch little Johnny, I'd be so happy to help out. I'd keep him every day if I could." If this isn't possible, keep in mind that what you see as neglectful, may be colored a bit by your love and desire to take care of the little guy. Grandpa can barely get around...but lots of handicapped people who can barely get around raise children just fine. His house is a pig-sty? That may be in the eye of the beholder. My house would probably be a pig-sty to you. (No, really, I'm a terrible housekeeper. I have dust thick on everything, mud from the dogs feet caked on the floor near the kitchen, the dishes are piled and I can't remember the last time I cleaned the toilets - I keep hoping my husband will do it.) My point is, messy - and even dirty - doesn't mean the child is neglected there. Unless you're talking feces, mold and flies, it's probably not CPS-worthy. But in the end, if you can do nothing else, you can get the little guy as often as you can and show him a loving, stable home and be a ideal for him...a grandma who loves and cherishes him. [/QUOTE]
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