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Just curious what you guy's think...not a major issue, yet!
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<blockquote data-quote="donna723" data-source="post: 600862" data-attributes="member: 1883"><p>I think a first name basis is far better than "Daddy" but it gets complicated with kids that age. My son found himself in the same position a year or so ago, not with a SO's child but with the son of his (female) roommate. His bio dad lives nearby but never sees him, no relationship at all. They all lived together when the boy was seven and continued till he was ten. This kid was spoiled rotten and obnoxious, with a mother who gave in to his every whim because it was easier. Somebody had to take him in hand so my son did, and as a result, the boy followed him around like a puppy and started calling him Daddy, even though he was told not to! My son did everything with him that his own dad should have, even going to parent/teacher conferences and coaching his Little League team. At that age, he just wanted a daddy so bad, like all the other kids had, somebody he could talk about when the other kids were talking about doing things with their dads. Then, when the inevitable happened and the roommate relationship ended, it was very painful for all of them.</p><p></p><p>Kids just want a dad so badly, to be like the other kids. One of my favorite family stories is what one of my younger cousins did when she was a kid. She was the youngest of six kids and their dad died when she was just a year old so she had no real memories of him. But all her friends had fathers and she wanted one so badly that she started asking total strangers if they would like to marry her mother and be her daddy ... she even asked their family priest because he was such a nice man and she figured he would make a great daddy!</p><p></p><p>I think it would be a big mistake to allow this boy to call him daddy, especially since there are no plans to marry. If he calls him daddy then he will think of him as his father and when the relationship ends the child will lose the person he has come to think of as his father. He can be a father <em>figure</em> to the child while still making it clear that he is <u>not</u> his "daddy".</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="donna723, post: 600862, member: 1883"] I think a first name basis is far better than "Daddy" but it gets complicated with kids that age. My son found himself in the same position a year or so ago, not with a SO's child but with the son of his (female) roommate. His bio dad lives nearby but never sees him, no relationship at all. They all lived together when the boy was seven and continued till he was ten. This kid was spoiled rotten and obnoxious, with a mother who gave in to his every whim because it was easier. Somebody had to take him in hand so my son did, and as a result, the boy followed him around like a puppy and started calling him Daddy, even though he was told not to! My son did everything with him that his own dad should have, even going to parent/teacher conferences and coaching his Little League team. At that age, he just wanted a daddy so bad, like all the other kids had, somebody he could talk about when the other kids were talking about doing things with their dads. Then, when the inevitable happened and the roommate relationship ended, it was very painful for all of them. Kids just want a dad so badly, to be like the other kids. One of my favorite family stories is what one of my younger cousins did when she was a kid. She was the youngest of six kids and their dad died when she was just a year old so she had no real memories of him. But all her friends had fathers and she wanted one so badly that she started asking total strangers if they would like to marry her mother and be her daddy ... she even asked their family priest because he was such a nice man and she figured he would make a great daddy! I think it would be a big mistake to allow this boy to call him daddy, especially since there are no plans to marry. If he calls him daddy then he will think of him as his father and when the relationship ends the child will lose the person he has come to think of as his father. He can be a father [I]figure[/I] to the child while still making it clear that he is [U]not[/U] his "daddy". [/QUOTE]
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