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Just filed Criminal Charges Against Our Lying Stealing Addict Son
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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 700489" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>HI Ben,</p><p>I am just getting caught up here. I am so sorry for your troubles with your son. You did the right thing in pressing charges. How well I know the pain of dealing with theft from my own two, but we had no idea who took what, broke into the house, the list goes on and on. All the while we were working and taking care of business, younger children and so on. They became very selfish people, with an attitude that we were supposed to "help" them, regardless of how they behaved.</p><p> It is as if they do not view us as people, we become <em>things</em> to them. That hurts.</p><p></p><p>This caught my attention because really, as we go through this insanity with our d cs and it comes down to something like filing charges, or making them leave our homes due to unacceptable behavior, we go through all of the stages of grief. We have suffered a loss in so many different ways, it is natural to cycle through and process many emotions.</p><p></p><p>I think most of us have felt like this, the shoulda, coulda, woulda, but the truth is, we did the best we could raising our kids with what we knew at the time. Of course we made mistakes, we are only human. </p><p> I am glad you know it is not true that this is your fault, because its not. Kids grow up and make choices. They have their own unique personalities and will do what they do, regardless of what we have taught them. Marijuana in the picture from 12 or so on is a bad cocktail. Especially now a days. I have heard that pot is way more potent than it used to be and is often mixed with other substances. Our kids go off the rails and we end up suffering the consequences. </p><p>Your son is young. Putting your foot down and doing the right thing by pressing charges, you are helping him and standing up for your right to have peace in your home. </p><p>You and your wife matter. </p><p>We are not rugs to be walked upon.</p><p>The sooner our d cs understand this, the better.</p><p>My heart goes out to you and your wife. </p><p>Hang in there and do something for the both of you. </p><p>(((HUGS)))</p><p>Leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 700489, member: 19522"] HI Ben, I am just getting caught up here. I am so sorry for your troubles with your son. You did the right thing in pressing charges. How well I know the pain of dealing with theft from my own two, but we had no idea who took what, broke into the house, the list goes on and on. All the while we were working and taking care of business, younger children and so on. They became very selfish people, with an attitude that we were supposed to "help" them, regardless of how they behaved. It is as if they do not view us as people, we become [I]things[/I] to them. That hurts. This caught my attention because really, as we go through this insanity with our d cs and it comes down to something like filing charges, or making them leave our homes due to unacceptable behavior, we go through all of the stages of grief. We have suffered a loss in so many different ways, it is natural to cycle through and process many emotions. I think most of us have felt like this, the shoulda, coulda, woulda, but the truth is, we did the best we could raising our kids with what we knew at the time. Of course we made mistakes, we are only human. I am glad you know it is not true that this is your fault, because its not. Kids grow up and make choices. They have their own unique personalities and will do what they do, regardless of what we have taught them. Marijuana in the picture from 12 or so on is a bad cocktail. Especially now a days. I have heard that pot is way more potent than it used to be and is often mixed with other substances. Our kids go off the rails and we end up suffering the consequences. Your son is young. Putting your foot down and doing the right thing by pressing charges, you are helping him and standing up for your right to have peace in your home. You and your wife matter. We are not rugs to be walked upon. The sooner our d cs understand this, the better. My heart goes out to you and your wife. Hang in there and do something for the both of you. (((HUGS))) Leafy [/QUOTE]
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