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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 268142" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Thanks, all! Star, he brought up gangs in his last letter- saying that there were a LOT of members in there and he was trying hard to not "become affiliated". (I loved that verbage given that he can barely spell and is incarcerated.) Anyway, I spoke with his parole officer about this yesterday and he said difficult child probably was telling the truth because it was a big problem in state Department of Juvenile Justice. He said difficult child might need to actually hit someone to get them to see that he isn't going to be a doormat. But he said difficult child should first try just letting them know that he wasn't interested in joining a gang, but he was "cool" with whatever others choose for themselves. It sounded kind of like the pressure when he first started middle school. The parole officer said he'll be going to meet with difficult child within a couple of weeks. I wrote difficult child about all this- his letter today said that sometimes a bigger gang member "assigns" a kid to a particular gang whether or not that kid wanted to join one. I'm going to write him again about this and tell him that they can't do that- it's an intimidation thing and not to fall for it. (Does anyone know about gangs enough to know if that's true?) I hope that won't be setting him up for more violence.</p><p></p><p>As far as visiting, he wasn't allowed any for the first month and given the day he was transferred and visitiation scheduling, it will be 5 weeks without seeing him but I'll see him this weekend. He has earned a phone call each Sat so we have spoken- but he only got 5 mins calls. And we write. After this weekend he'll be on the next higher level and call almost whenever he wants. I have to set up a payment plan for that. I'm not sure if the facility he's going to has an initial wait period for visiting or calls but I know he carries this next level of progress with him. </p><p></p><p>He's done extremely well in there so far. He always has when he's in a highly structured group with other boys. Now, whether or not he'll endd up exploding or if it's just that this is what it takes for him to thrive, we don't know yet.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 268142, member: 3699"] Thanks, all! Star, he brought up gangs in his last letter- saying that there were a LOT of members in there and he was trying hard to not "become affiliated". (I loved that verbage given that he can barely spell and is incarcerated.) Anyway, I spoke with his parole officer about this yesterday and he said difficult child probably was telling the truth because it was a big problem in state Department of Juvenile Justice. He said difficult child might need to actually hit someone to get them to see that he isn't going to be a doormat. But he said difficult child should first try just letting them know that he wasn't interested in joining a gang, but he was "cool" with whatever others choose for themselves. It sounded kind of like the pressure when he first started middle school. The parole officer said he'll be going to meet with difficult child within a couple of weeks. I wrote difficult child about all this- his letter today said that sometimes a bigger gang member "assigns" a kid to a particular gang whether or not that kid wanted to join one. I'm going to write him again about this and tell him that they can't do that- it's an intimidation thing and not to fall for it. (Does anyone know about gangs enough to know if that's true?) I hope that won't be setting him up for more violence. As far as visiting, he wasn't allowed any for the first month and given the day he was transferred and visitiation scheduling, it will be 5 weeks without seeing him but I'll see him this weekend. He has earned a phone call each Sat so we have spoken- but he only got 5 mins calls. And we write. After this weekend he'll be on the next higher level and call almost whenever he wants. I have to set up a payment plan for that. I'm not sure if the facility he's going to has an initial wait period for visiting or calls but I know he carries this next level of progress with him. He's done extremely well in there so far. He always has when he's in a highly structured group with other boys. Now, whether or not he'll endd up exploding or if it's just that this is what it takes for him to thrive, we don't know yet. [/QUOTE]
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