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<blockquote data-quote="PennyFromTheBlock" data-source="post: 740049" data-attributes="member: 18271"><p>I've been crazy busy at work (which isn't really a bad thing for me) and just now going through all these posts. </p><p></p><p>For me, and for what I've seen on these boards- we DO all love our kids. That's what is so so hard about this. We love them and sometimes that means to love them enough to let them be who they are. I repeat the mantra on the bad days: "it's not me, it's not me" "he chooses, he's grown, he knows right from wrong, he chooses".</p><p></p><p>In all honesty, if it weren't for my grandbaby, I'm not sure I would have ANYTHING to do with him. I have a brother that's just like my son and I ONLY tolerate his presence at Thanksgiving and Christmas for my mother's sake. </p><p></p><p>the other thing about the grandbaby- his custodial parent is his mother and she has gotten so much better in the three years we've been doing this- and realizing that *I* am not the enemy here. She's so influenced at times by my son though. They aren't together anymore, but sometimes I suspect she likes the 'bad boy' in him - I keep praying for safety and well-being for my grandson, and hold out hope that just like was said above- good parents have kids who are like this, and not so good parents can still have some great kids. </p><p></p><p>For work opportunities that will help with retirement- I want to move. Only about 100 miles away, but man I'm really considering it. But it scares me to death. </p><p></p><p>/sigh. Thanks to you all. this has been just what I needed today.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PennyFromTheBlock, post: 740049, member: 18271"] I've been crazy busy at work (which isn't really a bad thing for me) and just now going through all these posts. For me, and for what I've seen on these boards- we DO all love our kids. That's what is so so hard about this. We love them and sometimes that means to love them enough to let them be who they are. I repeat the mantra on the bad days: "it's not me, it's not me" "he chooses, he's grown, he knows right from wrong, he chooses". In all honesty, if it weren't for my grandbaby, I'm not sure I would have ANYTHING to do with him. I have a brother that's just like my son and I ONLY tolerate his presence at Thanksgiving and Christmas for my mother's sake. the other thing about the grandbaby- his custodial parent is his mother and she has gotten so much better in the three years we've been doing this- and realizing that *I* am not the enemy here. She's so influenced at times by my son though. They aren't together anymore, but sometimes I suspect she likes the 'bad boy' in him - I keep praying for safety and well-being for my grandson, and hold out hope that just like was said above- good parents have kids who are like this, and not so good parents can still have some great kids. For work opportunities that will help with retirement- I want to move. Only about 100 miles away, but man I'm really considering it. But it scares me to death. /sigh. Thanks to you all. this has been just what I needed today. [/QUOTE]
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