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<blockquote data-quote="MyFriendKita" data-source="post: 559053" data-attributes="member: 4888"><p>I know what you mean about not wanting to be his mother, but could it be this is his way of getting you to take care of him? Maybe with all of the issues you've gone through with Boo and with thank you (and it sounds like you have been their major caretaker, so I get why you REALLY don't want to have to mother husband, too), he has felt left out, and let's face it, most men are big babies and still want to be mothered sometimes. Like we don't do enough mothering of the actual children. We went through a period when my husband wouldn't take his blood pressure medication. Why? Because I didn't give it to him, but I did give difficult child <strong>his</strong> medications. Uh, yes, because otherwise, difficult child wouldn't have taken his medications. husband wasn't quite a hypochondriac, but he did seem to want to be "mothered." He's not as bad now, but then he actually does have health issues now, so maybe he gets enough medical attention he no longer needs my attention in that way.</p><p></p><p>The other thing is, it's one thing to know you need to exercise and lose weight, etc., but it's really hard to make those changes. Would he be willing to start small, like maybe walking around the block with you? It's a lot easier to exercise if you have someone to do it with you. You said he was miserable on WW, but what about changing his diet by adding things instead of restricting what he eats. Like having a bowl of soup before meals, or swapping out one soft drink for a bottle of water every day. I read about a woman who lost a great deal of weight that way, even though it took a couple of years.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="MyFriendKita, post: 559053, member: 4888"] I know what you mean about not wanting to be his mother, but could it be this is his way of getting you to take care of him? Maybe with all of the issues you've gone through with Boo and with thank you (and it sounds like you have been their major caretaker, so I get why you REALLY don't want to have to mother husband, too), he has felt left out, and let's face it, most men are big babies and still want to be mothered sometimes. Like we don't do enough mothering of the actual children. We went through a period when my husband wouldn't take his blood pressure medication. Why? Because I didn't give it to him, but I did give difficult child [B]his[/B] medications. Uh, yes, because otherwise, difficult child wouldn't have taken his medications. husband wasn't quite a hypochondriac, but he did seem to want to be "mothered." He's not as bad now, but then he actually does have health issues now, so maybe he gets enough medical attention he no longer needs my attention in that way. The other thing is, it's one thing to know you need to exercise and lose weight, etc., but it's really hard to make those changes. Would he be willing to start small, like maybe walking around the block with you? It's a lot easier to exercise if you have someone to do it with you. You said he was miserable on WW, but what about changing his diet by adding things instead of restricting what he eats. Like having a bowl of soup before meals, or swapping out one soft drink for a bottle of water every day. I read about a woman who lost a great deal of weight that way, even though it took a couple of years. [/QUOTE]
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