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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 709435" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>You are doing ALL the right things! I have a 25 yo child with Aspergers (high functioning Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)) who was VERY violent. When my third child was about a year old, the child psychiatrist and psychologists treating my oldest (the now 25 yo) told me that my oldest needed to be an only child. He was the oldest of 3!!!! How the heck was I to make that happen????? My husband and I did the best we could, but I couldn't put his sister and brother back where they came from, no matter what the doctors suggested!!</p><p></p><p>My oldest got incredibly violent before all was said and done. When he was 12 he spent 3 months in a state run psychiatric hospital and it was one of the best things we did for him. He hated it, but he learned a TON. Eventually we ended up having my son live with my parents a few miles from us. My father was a retired junior high teacher and dealt with the school stuff while my mother did the civilizing stuff like manners etcetera. It worked out well, I think. My son went from raging and attacking and trying to kill his sister and I to the point that we had to have him removed by the cops to graduating high school and working full time on a career path and supporting himself and saving up to buy a pet. He has worked hard to rebuild his relationship with his little sister, to have a good relationship with his father, little brother and myself. He is the full time pet sitter any time my parents are out of town and there is NEVER anything missing or a problem with the animals (NOT what happened when my brother would pet sit!).</p><p></p><p>Kids with autism can be violent. The sensory issues they experience can be totally overwhelming. If you are not addressing the sensory part of his issues, you are missing a huge component of his problems. Read THe Out of Sync Child and The Out of Sync Child Has Fun, both by Kranowitz. Get your child in to a private Occupational Therapist (OT) for an evaluation. Understand that your child has NO say in sensory issues and is not doing them to annoy you, his brain simply doesn't work the way so called normal people's brains work. But normal people are mostly boring and I bet your son has never been boring a day in his life, so even when it is annoying, the sensory stuff is a small price to pay. Or that was generally my opinion. But I have my own autistic traits and major sensory problems, so I have my own perspective. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 709435, member: 1233"] You are doing ALL the right things! I have a 25 yo child with Aspergers (high functioning Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)) who was VERY violent. When my third child was about a year old, the child psychiatrist and psychologists treating my oldest (the now 25 yo) told me that my oldest needed to be an only child. He was the oldest of 3!!!! How the heck was I to make that happen????? My husband and I did the best we could, but I couldn't put his sister and brother back where they came from, no matter what the doctors suggested!! My oldest got incredibly violent before all was said and done. When he was 12 he spent 3 months in a state run psychiatric hospital and it was one of the best things we did for him. He hated it, but he learned a TON. Eventually we ended up having my son live with my parents a few miles from us. My father was a retired junior high teacher and dealt with the school stuff while my mother did the civilizing stuff like manners etcetera. It worked out well, I think. My son went from raging and attacking and trying to kill his sister and I to the point that we had to have him removed by the cops to graduating high school and working full time on a career path and supporting himself and saving up to buy a pet. He has worked hard to rebuild his relationship with his little sister, to have a good relationship with his father, little brother and myself. He is the full time pet sitter any time my parents are out of town and there is NEVER anything missing or a problem with the animals (NOT what happened when my brother would pet sit!). Kids with autism can be violent. The sensory issues they experience can be totally overwhelming. If you are not addressing the sensory part of his issues, you are missing a huge component of his problems. Read THe Out of Sync Child and The Out of Sync Child Has Fun, both by Kranowitz. Get your child in to a private Occupational Therapist (OT) for an evaluation. Understand that your child has NO say in sensory issues and is not doing them to annoy you, his brain simply doesn't work the way so called normal people's brains work. But normal people are mostly boring and I bet your son has never been boring a day in his life, so even when it is annoying, the sensory stuff is a small price to pay. Or that was generally my opinion. But I have my own autistic traits and major sensory problems, so I have my own perspective. ;) [/QUOTE]
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