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<blockquote data-quote="Farmwife" data-source="post: 368376" data-attributes="member: 8617"><p>Such a bummer you live that far from my gathered resources. I could cry. I am so happy you saw someone. Sometimes having a shoulder or an objective voice of reason is such a comfort.</p><p> </p><p>husband is dear husband. I'm not sure about a or s though.</p><p> </p><p>Medication is a difficult thing to accept. I too hated the idea once. I didn't want the side effect risks or to have something dull my kiddos natural personality.</p><p> </p><p>After a clear diagnosis and solid answers it is easier to make an informed decision. In the case of many health issues, physical and mental the criteria is "will the benefits of the medicine alleviate symptoms and outweigh the side effects." With careful monitoring and slow tapering on and off of medications the risks can be minimized. Careful observation and only one change at a time is ideal as well.</p><p> </p><p>It is such an individual decision to make. I'm not advocating the use of medications because not everyone gets the perfect mix. What I am trying to say is though, is you should consider your daughters quality of life without medications and what it could be on medications and weigh that against potential side effects.</p><p> </p><p>In my case my son is very depressed without medications and has serious self esteem issues. I saw a very real future threat of suicide if he was not treated. So, although he could some day down the road face TD (a nasty potential) or a list of other things I still see the medications as being potentially life saving. Aside from that, without medications he had no chance at education, future employment and had all but almost alienated himself from all friends and family. medications were the only choice for us. I hated it but I had no other choice.</p><p> </p><p>Have you tried and exhausted all other options that appeal to you? Have you tried monitoring her moods to see when they fluctuate and why? are there certain situations or environments or people that set her off? Have you tested her diet for food allergies? Have you tried behavior modification? Not all of these work for everyone but they are ideas, new directions to think about because it is all up to you after all. Sometimes a combination of things helps. I use medications, sleep routines, counseling and natural consequences for my difficult child. Not a perfect system but it fits him as best as we can make it.</p><p> </p><p>In the event medications are your only option try not to see it as an evil thing. Lots of people such as diabetics spend their lives with medication. Sometimes we just have to accept things as they are and deal with it as best we can with what we are given. Only you can judge what you think the pros and cons are of adding medications would be on your daughters family life, social life, education, well being and quality of living. etc.</p><p> </p><p>Sometimes none of the options are perfect and no answers are clear or easy. I struggle with that in every choice I have to make for my difficult child. medications are just a small part of his care and total picture. medications help take the edge off but they are not a magic cure all. Even IF you do go that route it takes time for them to work and it takes time to get the right one. It took us a year of chaos before we got the right combo. We now have good days mixed with a couple bad days. I can look back at this time last year and know I made the right choice for my difficult child and our family. Life is still hard but it has become tolerable which sometimes is all that can be hoped for with these high maintenance kiddos. It wasn't an easy year or past 3 for that matter but I can look back now and see tiny bits of progress.</p><p> </p><p>One day at a time, one small success at a time. You've taken the first step on your journey just be patient knowing you are in the right direction.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Farmwife, post: 368376, member: 8617"] Such a bummer you live that far from my gathered resources. I could cry. I am so happy you saw someone. Sometimes having a shoulder or an objective voice of reason is such a comfort. husband is dear husband. I'm not sure about a or s though. Medication is a difficult thing to accept. I too hated the idea once. I didn't want the side effect risks or to have something dull my kiddos natural personality. After a clear diagnosis and solid answers it is easier to make an informed decision. In the case of many health issues, physical and mental the criteria is "will the benefits of the medicine alleviate symptoms and outweigh the side effects." With careful monitoring and slow tapering on and off of medications the risks can be minimized. Careful observation and only one change at a time is ideal as well. It is such an individual decision to make. I'm not advocating the use of medications because not everyone gets the perfect mix. What I am trying to say is though, is you should consider your daughters quality of life without medications and what it could be on medications and weigh that against potential side effects. In my case my son is very depressed without medications and has serious self esteem issues. I saw a very real future threat of suicide if he was not treated. So, although he could some day down the road face TD (a nasty potential) or a list of other things I still see the medications as being potentially life saving. Aside from that, without medications he had no chance at education, future employment and had all but almost alienated himself from all friends and family. medications were the only choice for us. I hated it but I had no other choice. Have you tried and exhausted all other options that appeal to you? Have you tried monitoring her moods to see when they fluctuate and why? are there certain situations or environments or people that set her off? Have you tested her diet for food allergies? Have you tried behavior modification? Not all of these work for everyone but they are ideas, new directions to think about because it is all up to you after all. Sometimes a combination of things helps. I use medications, sleep routines, counseling and natural consequences for my difficult child. Not a perfect system but it fits him as best as we can make it. In the event medications are your only option try not to see it as an evil thing. Lots of people such as diabetics spend their lives with medication. Sometimes we just have to accept things as they are and deal with it as best we can with what we are given. Only you can judge what you think the pros and cons are of adding medications would be on your daughters family life, social life, education, well being and quality of living. etc. Sometimes none of the options are perfect and no answers are clear or easy. I struggle with that in every choice I have to make for my difficult child. medications are just a small part of his care and total picture. medications help take the edge off but they are not a magic cure all. Even IF you do go that route it takes time for them to work and it takes time to get the right one. It took us a year of chaos before we got the right combo. We now have good days mixed with a couple bad days. I can look back at this time last year and know I made the right choice for my difficult child and our family. Life is still hard but it has become tolerable which sometimes is all that can be hoped for with these high maintenance kiddos. It wasn't an easy year or past 3 for that matter but I can look back now and see tiny bits of progress. One day at a time, one small success at a time. You've taken the first step on your journey just be patient knowing you are in the right direction. [/QUOTE]
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