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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 486580" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Even though they are family members, maybe even especially because they are family members, it is not ok for them to hurt us. I get mad at Q even with his "legitimate" reasons for hurting me at times. No one deserves that and your kid is safe, you are actually parenting him more and harder (In my no-experience-as-a-mom-in-this-area-opinion) by helping him to see how serious this really is. He may not get it, but you are continuing to show him true love and appropriate boundaries by doing what you are doing. I know this is not my area, but have grown to care for you so much.. I just want you to know, I think you are amazing. All of you who fight through this stuff, so very brave (I get it, you may think you didn't have a choice, but you did...you could have given up and even now you are not...you are picking the right things to do). You just go on loving him more by going through this for the ultimate good. Negative feelings are normal and even cutting off looking at the texts etc. would be ok. It is a decision to care for yourself and set an example, which is love for him too. Showing him that you love and value yourself, gives him a chance to learn these things. Just keep on and dont pick at the little decisions you make. They are all ok, he wont die without this stuff. He chose to put his life in this place, not you. You have no obligation to send anything more. If some point, you are in the mood, then fine. send it, otherwise, storage seems very fair.... not your problem. Hugs and care always, Dee</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 486580, member: 12886"] Even though they are family members, maybe even especially because they are family members, it is not ok for them to hurt us. I get mad at Q even with his "legitimate" reasons for hurting me at times. No one deserves that and your kid is safe, you are actually parenting him more and harder (In my no-experience-as-a-mom-in-this-area-opinion) by helping him to see how serious this really is. He may not get it, but you are continuing to show him true love and appropriate boundaries by doing what you are doing. I know this is not my area, but have grown to care for you so much.. I just want you to know, I think you are amazing. All of you who fight through this stuff, so very brave (I get it, you may think you didn't have a choice, but you did...you could have given up and even now you are not...you are picking the right things to do). You just go on loving him more by going through this for the ultimate good. Negative feelings are normal and even cutting off looking at the texts etc. would be ok. It is a decision to care for yourself and set an example, which is love for him too. Showing him that you love and value yourself, gives him a chance to learn these things. Just keep on and dont pick at the little decisions you make. They are all ok, he wont die without this stuff. He chose to put his life in this place, not you. You have no obligation to send anything more. If some point, you are in the mood, then fine. send it, otherwise, storage seems very fair.... not your problem. Hugs and care always, Dee [/QUOTE]
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