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<blockquote data-quote="Estherfromjerusalem" data-source="post: 486771" data-attributes="member: 77"><p>Well, I can't say my feelings are as strong as mrsammler, but my difficult child has been in Australia for almost 10 months now, and I feel guilty every time I think how peaceful our home has become without him around and how much we enjoy life without him. It's been 10 months, and I almost never miss him. When he phones or Skypes us, my heart sinks -- I still don't really want to talk to him very much. My other children certainly don't understand and I wouldn't even tell them I feel this way about difficult child (who is my youngest child). But he is 25 and I just don't feel in any way at all responsible any more for anything that he does. It's been ten whole months and I still feel damaged by him, but slowly but surely a sense of peace is gradually creeping in to my heart. We get phone calls from the bank and from the phone company -- he owes money left right and center. I am most definitely NOT going to pay out another penny for him. My gift to him when he left was to pay for his health insurance, including extreme sports such as bunjy etc., and I renew it every four months, but that is the full extent of my contributing to his life. He keeps on losing one job after another. He just lost such a good and well paying job because he simply didn't get up in the morning and was late for work for the second time. In Australia there's no mucking around -- if you don't keep to the rules, you are out!</p><p></p><p>Anyway, he's on the other side of the world, and he is learning the hard way. Last thing I heard -- he's washing dishes in some cafe. I was thrilled to hear that -- it means that he is finally learning the lesson that when you haven't got a "decent" job and you need money, you do anything to earn it honestly. Actually, washing dishes is also a "decent" job when I think about it.</p><p></p><p>Just sharing my feelings -- after all this time I still want to stay away from him.</p><p></p><p>Love, Esther</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Estherfromjerusalem, post: 486771, member: 77"] Well, I can't say my feelings are as strong as mrsammler, but my difficult child has been in Australia for almost 10 months now, and I feel guilty every time I think how peaceful our home has become without him around and how much we enjoy life without him. It's been 10 months, and I almost never miss him. When he phones or Skypes us, my heart sinks -- I still don't really want to talk to him very much. My other children certainly don't understand and I wouldn't even tell them I feel this way about difficult child (who is my youngest child). But he is 25 and I just don't feel in any way at all responsible any more for anything that he does. It's been ten whole months and I still feel damaged by him, but slowly but surely a sense of peace is gradually creeping in to my heart. We get phone calls from the bank and from the phone company -- he owes money left right and center. I am most definitely NOT going to pay out another penny for him. My gift to him when he left was to pay for his health insurance, including extreme sports such as bunjy etc., and I renew it every four months, but that is the full extent of my contributing to his life. He keeps on losing one job after another. He just lost such a good and well paying job because he simply didn't get up in the morning and was late for work for the second time. In Australia there's no mucking around -- if you don't keep to the rules, you are out! Anyway, he's on the other side of the world, and he is learning the hard way. Last thing I heard -- he's washing dishes in some cafe. I was thrilled to hear that -- it means that he is finally learning the lesson that when you haven't got a "decent" job and you need money, you do anything to earn it honestly. Actually, washing dishes is also a "decent" job when I think about it. Just sharing my feelings -- after all this time I still want to stay away from him. Love, Esther [/QUOTE]
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