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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 134511" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Thanks again.</p><p> </p><p>I also had problems with "just" headbutting me. BUT difficult child was rarely violent with husband. husband refused to see difficult child's strength. It was not until I was screaming and tackling difficult child to drag him off Jessica as difficult child was strangling her that husband "saw" how strong difficult child was. And in a rage he was even stronger.</p><p> </p><p>I have had bruised ribs, vomiting, and other "fun" aftereffects of difficult child's headbutts. And all that by age 8.</p><p> </p><p>I think we will go to the domestic violence shelter for counselling. It is the aftereffects of violence we are dealing with. Maybe they can get through to him. They got through to my bro about his anger issues - a complete miracle.</p><p> </p><p>I know that husband rarely ever took difficult child's side, often said I was too physical with him. He meant in dragging him off his sibs, in physically holding him to stop the violence, that kind of thing. I tried to NEVER hurt difficult child when doing this, but sometimes it was unavoidable given the level of his strength. Sometimes we fell and it hurt. For both of us. Or he rolled into furniture or the wall in trying to get to a sib or to hurt me. I ALWAYS did my best to NOT hit him, etc.... </p><p> </p><p>I know we had one therapist who pushed using a belt to stop "defiance". It only happened 2 times, and both husband and I barfed. We just couldn't hit him, it hurt us and he would egg us to hit him harder. </p><p> </p><p>So I worked my dangedest NOT to hurt the kid, to REACH him, but also to protect my other kids. husband seemed to just assume I would be OK with it all. </p><p> </p><p>We are going to get some help, I promise.</p><p> </p><p>Susie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 134511, member: 1233"] Thanks again. I also had problems with "just" headbutting me. BUT difficult child was rarely violent with husband. husband refused to see difficult child's strength. It was not until I was screaming and tackling difficult child to drag him off Jessica as difficult child was strangling her that husband "saw" how strong difficult child was. And in a rage he was even stronger. I have had bruised ribs, vomiting, and other "fun" aftereffects of difficult child's headbutts. And all that by age 8. I think we will go to the domestic violence shelter for counselling. It is the aftereffects of violence we are dealing with. Maybe they can get through to him. They got through to my bro about his anger issues - a complete miracle. I know that husband rarely ever took difficult child's side, often said I was too physical with him. He meant in dragging him off his sibs, in physically holding him to stop the violence, that kind of thing. I tried to NEVER hurt difficult child when doing this, but sometimes it was unavoidable given the level of his strength. Sometimes we fell and it hurt. For both of us. Or he rolled into furniture or the wall in trying to get to a sib or to hurt me. I ALWAYS did my best to NOT hit him, etc.... I know we had one therapist who pushed using a belt to stop "defiance". It only happened 2 times, and both husband and I barfed. We just couldn't hit him, it hurt us and he would egg us to hit him harder. So I worked my dangedest NOT to hurt the kid, to REACH him, but also to protect my other kids. husband seemed to just assume I would be OK with it all. We are going to get some help, I promise. Susie [/QUOTE]
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