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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 356029" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>So let's consider this scenario - he goes back to Department of Juvenile Justice for a few months. Then he comes out and THEN reoffends... because after all, he is still only a few months older. So what happens then? What is needed, is a long-term plan that helps him learn the right way to behave, under conditions where the knowledge really sticks and helps him change direction. Is this going to happen if he goes back to Department of Juvenile Justice? Or is there another possibility that will work?</p><p></p><p>I hear you on the bro thing, but it is an option that is still on the table even though you don't want it there. Because it's on the table, you need to be seen to be involved at some level in your son's welfare and placement. If you're not and you then complain about choices made on your son's behalf, they will say, "So what does it matter to you? You're no longer engaged in this." I can't see why you can't go to court in some fashion (even if you sit outside and they know it) and make it clear that he is YOUR son, you need input into what happens to him, but because he has attacked you, you need to be able to feel safe. And if you're sitting in court and the judge says, "I'm ordering him to be released into the custody of his mother," why can't you speak up and say, "Excuse me your honour, but since he attacked me I do not feel safe if he is in my home without another adult present." </p><p>If you can't say it, there should be someone to say this on your behalf, since it has a strong bearing on the success of whatever placement is chosen for difficult child.</p><p></p><p>I know you said you've done this in your head, but nothing beats putting it down on paper. It can really help you even if you think you've already got a perfectly good handle on it.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 356029, member: 1991"] So let's consider this scenario - he goes back to Department of Juvenile Justice for a few months. Then he comes out and THEN reoffends... because after all, he is still only a few months older. So what happens then? What is needed, is a long-term plan that helps him learn the right way to behave, under conditions where the knowledge really sticks and helps him change direction. Is this going to happen if he goes back to Department of Juvenile Justice? Or is there another possibility that will work? I hear you on the bro thing, but it is an option that is still on the table even though you don't want it there. Because it's on the table, you need to be seen to be involved at some level in your son's welfare and placement. If you're not and you then complain about choices made on your son's behalf, they will say, "So what does it matter to you? You're no longer engaged in this." I can't see why you can't go to court in some fashion (even if you sit outside and they know it) and make it clear that he is YOUR son, you need input into what happens to him, but because he has attacked you, you need to be able to feel safe. And if you're sitting in court and the judge says, "I'm ordering him to be released into the custody of his mother," why can't you speak up and say, "Excuse me your honour, but since he attacked me I do not feel safe if he is in my home without another adult present." If you can't say it, there should be someone to say this on your behalf, since it has a strong bearing on the success of whatever placement is chosen for difficult child. I know you said you've done this in your head, but nothing beats putting it down on paper. It can really help you even if you think you've already got a perfectly good handle on it. Marg [/QUOTE]
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