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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 356192" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>6) call the victim's advoccate at the prosecutor's office who contacted me last year after difficult child pulled the knife on me</p><p>7) request a hearing myself from the judge due to concern's about my son (doesn't play well with PO and attny's)</p><p>8) if (when) we get orders to go to county mental health, go to the county crisis center (in same building and same dept) and tell them why I am not comfortable doing this- they are the ones who a tdo goes thru and already know about the knife-pulling that ultimately, the PO did nothing about- see- the probation officer KNEW that difficult child had done this before and she did NOTHING to help- oh wait- she ordered in home therapy that was due to start 2 weeks later but difficult child did it again before that 2 weeks even went by- these people don't get the idea of crisis or acute- aanyway, back to this idea- they can't say I didn't comply if I went to the crisis center and told them I am scared to try this approach and tell them to look at their records from winter of 2008/2009 and they can call the phosps that difficult child was in- advantage- difficult child will already be released and this isn't a parole violation for him</p><p>9) file for relief/parental placement with dss again. That forces dss to meet with the parent within 10 days. They don't want to take the child and they get real tic'd off if this is a family in another public agency already because it means that dept is not really assisting this family appropriately. So, it forces a meeting between dss, the parent, and any agency already involved- not an automatic placement of the kid</p><p></p><p>I'm still mulling ideas over- seriously- they couldn't possibly care- I told PO this is why the psychiatrists had said we need family therapy out of the home, before difficult child comes back, and that it was key because difficult child had been getting aggressive with me when these more sensitive issues are opened up in outpatient settings. I think this is why they have tried to discredit me- they know I'm not a doormat and it would look pretty bad if it came out in headlines that these people kept sending this kid home if they had been told- so their answer is to not listen to me, not read the records, and discredit me. The story of the 14yo that difficult child was incarcerated with comes to mind often though- his therapist had told people that he could explode and harm his grandmother. They sent and took him home anyway and he stabbed his grandmother to death. Of course he's still incarcerated at 18yo and will be for years. Didn't the system play some responsibility in this, too? That happened in this state a few years ago- no one blames any official or anyone but this kid. I'm not saying he is blameless, but our system has no accountability and the system failed that entire family, yet in our state, no one in the system can be sued for stuff like this so they don't care. It was not in the kid's best interest to send him home knowing he was at a risk for that any more than it was in the grandmother's.</p><p></p><p>They need to think about this too and I'm sure they have and it's a frustration for them- if they stick my butt in jail, they have to find a place for difficult child to go right then. If he's sent to my bro, he won't be under their control anymore. But, if they stuck me in jail for contempt it could be no longer than 10 days- and they can't take custody from me for that I don't think. DSS could not get difficult child to my bro and back in that amount of time.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 356192, member: 3699"] 6) call the victim's advoccate at the prosecutor's office who contacted me last year after difficult child pulled the knife on me 7) request a hearing myself from the judge due to concern's about my son (doesn't play well with PO and attny's) 8) if (when) we get orders to go to county mental health, go to the county crisis center (in same building and same dept) and tell them why I am not comfortable doing this- they are the ones who a tdo goes thru and already know about the knife-pulling that ultimately, the PO did nothing about- see- the probation officer KNEW that difficult child had done this before and she did NOTHING to help- oh wait- she ordered in home therapy that was due to start 2 weeks later but difficult child did it again before that 2 weeks even went by- these people don't get the idea of crisis or acute- aanyway, back to this idea- they can't say I didn't comply if I went to the crisis center and told them I am scared to try this approach and tell them to look at their records from winter of 2008/2009 and they can call the phosps that difficult child was in- advantage- difficult child will already be released and this isn't a parole violation for him 9) file for relief/parental placement with dss again. That forces dss to meet with the parent within 10 days. They don't want to take the child and they get real tic'd off if this is a family in another public agency already because it means that dept is not really assisting this family appropriately. So, it forces a meeting between dss, the parent, and any agency already involved- not an automatic placement of the kid I'm still mulling ideas over- seriously- they couldn't possibly care- I told PO this is why the psychiatrists had said we need family therapy out of the home, before difficult child comes back, and that it was key because difficult child had been getting aggressive with me when these more sensitive issues are opened up in outpatient settings. I think this is why they have tried to discredit me- they know I'm not a doormat and it would look pretty bad if it came out in headlines that these people kept sending this kid home if they had been told- so their answer is to not listen to me, not read the records, and discredit me. The story of the 14yo that difficult child was incarcerated with comes to mind often though- his therapist had told people that he could explode and harm his grandmother. They sent and took him home anyway and he stabbed his grandmother to death. Of course he's still incarcerated at 18yo and will be for years. Didn't the system play some responsibility in this, too? That happened in this state a few years ago- no one blames any official or anyone but this kid. I'm not saying he is blameless, but our system has no accountability and the system failed that entire family, yet in our state, no one in the system can be sued for stuff like this so they don't care. It was not in the kid's best interest to send him home knowing he was at a risk for that any more than it was in the grandmother's. They need to think about this too and I'm sure they have and it's a frustration for them- if they stick my butt in jail, they have to find a place for difficult child to go right then. If he's sent to my bro, he won't be under their control anymore. But, if they stuck me in jail for contempt it could be no longer than 10 days- and they can't take custody from me for that I don't think. DSS could not get difficult child to my bro and back in that amount of time. [/QUOTE]
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