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<blockquote data-quote="cmfout" data-source="post: 425312"><p>First a little back story - last August, difficult child was riding his bike home to get here before curfew. He came down the southbound lane of the road in front of our home, went towards the center, signaled a left turn, and turned into our driveway. A police officer was a block or so up the road, came down with his lights flashing, and harassed difficult child in our driveway for "riding in the center of the road". When I saw his lights and went outside, he wouldn't let me approach, wouldn't tell me what was going on, and was leaning over Jacob and yelling literally inches from his face - saying things like "you're stupid if you think you'll get away with anything in this town" and other similar nasty comments. Every time I tried to get close and find out what was happening, he would physically grab me and force me away, then asked another officer (who had stopped to see what was happening) to keep me at least 15 feet away. Jacob finally broke away from him and came inside and I asked again what was going on. The cop explained that Jacob was in the middle of the road - isn't he supposed to be when making a left turn? - and he stopped him because "he's the new teenager in town"!! The officer - the first one, who had been yelling at Jacob - then used his chest and upper body to physically "walk" me backwards towards me door. He rubbed his chest and upper arm over my chest when he turned to walk away.</p><p>Fast forward to November. Jacob had been out with several friends and climbed over a gate at a national park that separates the US from Canada. He climbed over, did a little dance, and climbed back over - I've seen the video so I know that's the truth. Border patrol made contact with him and his friends, talked to me on Jacob's cell phone, and told me they'd send him home with the understanding that he wouldn't go over the gate again. As I was talking to Jacob and telling him he'd better get his butt home immediately, the same officer that had given us issues in August showed up and took Jacob's cell phone from him, ending the call. I took off for the park gates with my brother and room-mate in tow. We got there (less than 5 minutes away) to find that Jacob had been handcuffed, placed under arrest, and tossed into the back of a cruiser. Another officer talked to me then released Jacob from the cruiser, telling me that he didn't understand why Jacob had been arrested when a good talking to was all that was needed. The first one (Jacob calls him officer a**-hole and I agree!) tried to keep Jacob and I separated while the other officer was talking to me, but was told by the other one to back off. Jacob, as soon as the handcuffs were off, pulled his shirt off and showed me bruises on his upper arms, wrists, shoulder, and his lower back. We left after being told that no charges would be brought against Jacob. Once home, I took pictures of the bruises (caused by officer a**-hole) and helped Jacob to write down his side of what happened. When the officer took his phone and ended our call, he grabbed Jacob by the wrist, bringing his arm half way up his back. He then slammed Jacob into the hood of the cruiser a couple of times, all the while holding his upper arm and wrist tight enough to bruise him. Jacob struggled and got a good kick in on the cops leg. All of this is on video from the park entrance - none of it's just Jacob's word. This officer has been told by the state police to stay away from Jacob and I pending their investigation.</p><p>Now, the same officer (nearly 6 months later) has sent the police reports (minus his actions) in to the prosecutors office and we've already had an arraignment hearing. Jacob is being charged with trespassing (we agree with this one, he did wrong), resisting arrest, assault on an officer, and obstruction of justice.</p><p>Jacob is not able to fully comprehend the seriousness of this. He can't focus well enough to really understand what he's being told and what could happen to him. His public defender is refusing to allow me to be in the room with him when she's talking to him, and won't discuss his case with me in any way. There is no way he can keep it together long enough to give her all the details that she needs to know to help him.</p><p>My question is CAN SHE DO THIS??? She doesn't know his diagnosis or what's in place for him. She's pushing him to plead guilty to all charges. Doing so would mean up to a year in juvie, when he's worked so hard to better himself and to become a great kid. Does anyone have any advice or suggestions? We can't afford a private lawyer but I can't let her screw Jacob over like this. He should answer for what he actually did wrong BUT he should not be held accountable for the actions of a police officer! The pd is also giving Jacob a hard time about being home schooled, telling him that if he's not enrolled in some type of program it won't go good for him. We follow the laws in our state with homeschooling and he's not enrolled in anything - we're not required under law to be enrolled in any program. Can they use that against him?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="cmfout, post: 425312"] First a little back story - last August, difficult child was riding his bike home to get here before curfew. He came down the southbound lane of the road in front of our home, went towards the center, signaled a left turn, and turned into our driveway. A police officer was a block or so up the road, came down with his lights flashing, and harassed difficult child in our driveway for "riding in the center of the road". When I saw his lights and went outside, he wouldn't let me approach, wouldn't tell me what was going on, and was leaning over Jacob and yelling literally inches from his face - saying things like "you're stupid if you think you'll get away with anything in this town" and other similar nasty comments. Every time I tried to get close and find out what was happening, he would physically grab me and force me away, then asked another officer (who had stopped to see what was happening) to keep me at least 15 feet away. Jacob finally broke away from him and came inside and I asked again what was going on. The cop explained that Jacob was in the middle of the road - isn't he supposed to be when making a left turn? - and he stopped him because "he's the new teenager in town"!! The officer - the first one, who had been yelling at Jacob - then used his chest and upper body to physically "walk" me backwards towards me door. He rubbed his chest and upper arm over my chest when he turned to walk away. Fast forward to November. Jacob had been out with several friends and climbed over a gate at a national park that separates the US from Canada. He climbed over, did a little dance, and climbed back over - I've seen the video so I know that's the truth. Border patrol made contact with him and his friends, talked to me on Jacob's cell phone, and told me they'd send him home with the understanding that he wouldn't go over the gate again. As I was talking to Jacob and telling him he'd better get his butt home immediately, the same officer that had given us issues in August showed up and took Jacob's cell phone from him, ending the call. I took off for the park gates with my brother and room-mate in tow. We got there (less than 5 minutes away) to find that Jacob had been handcuffed, placed under arrest, and tossed into the back of a cruiser. Another officer talked to me then released Jacob from the cruiser, telling me that he didn't understand why Jacob had been arrested when a good talking to was all that was needed. The first one (Jacob calls him officer a**-hole and I agree!) tried to keep Jacob and I separated while the other officer was talking to me, but was told by the other one to back off. Jacob, as soon as the handcuffs were off, pulled his shirt off and showed me bruises on his upper arms, wrists, shoulder, and his lower back. We left after being told that no charges would be brought against Jacob. Once home, I took pictures of the bruises (caused by officer a**-hole) and helped Jacob to write down his side of what happened. When the officer took his phone and ended our call, he grabbed Jacob by the wrist, bringing his arm half way up his back. He then slammed Jacob into the hood of the cruiser a couple of times, all the while holding his upper arm and wrist tight enough to bruise him. Jacob struggled and got a good kick in on the cops leg. All of this is on video from the park entrance - none of it's just Jacob's word. This officer has been told by the state police to stay away from Jacob and I pending their investigation. Now, the same officer (nearly 6 months later) has sent the police reports (minus his actions) in to the prosecutors office and we've already had an arraignment hearing. Jacob is being charged with trespassing (we agree with this one, he did wrong), resisting arrest, assault on an officer, and obstruction of justice. Jacob is not able to fully comprehend the seriousness of this. He can't focus well enough to really understand what he's being told and what could happen to him. His public defender is refusing to allow me to be in the room with him when she's talking to him, and won't discuss his case with me in any way. There is no way he can keep it together long enough to give her all the details that she needs to know to help him. My question is CAN SHE DO THIS??? She doesn't know his diagnosis or what's in place for him. She's pushing him to plead guilty to all charges. Doing so would mean up to a year in juvie, when he's worked so hard to better himself and to become a great kid. Does anyone have any advice or suggestions? We can't afford a private lawyer but I can't let her screw Jacob over like this. He should answer for what he actually did wrong BUT he should not be held accountable for the actions of a police officer! The pd is also giving Jacob a hard time about being home schooled, telling him that if he's not enrolled in some type of program it won't go good for him. We follow the laws in our state with homeschooling and he's not enrolled in anything - we're not required under law to be enrolled in any program. Can they use that against him? [/QUOTE]
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