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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 425533" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Make super double triple sure that your child knows he is to say NOTHING to the cops other than that he would like to see his lawyer. He has rights, needs to know he can IGNORE ALL questions, statements and threats and is to sign NOTHING without a lawyer and YOU present. If your child asks for YOU then he has the right to have you there for questioning. HE needs to ask the lawyer to let you into the room. You may need your own attorney to help with this. A bad lawyer can be worse than no lawyer. PUSH difficult child to know he is to sign NOTHING until YOU have read and okayed it. He needs to ask for you until the atty starts to let you in. You must work to help him do this. Role play where you are hte atty and where you are the cops pushing him to say and/or sign things. he MUST NOT SIGN OR GIVE ANY VERBAL STATEMENT with-o a good lawyer. It is time to find a private lawyer. Send requests to every lawyer in your area is you cannot afford one. Or take a couple of days off of work (if at all possible) and go to verious law offices and ask to speak to someone about a pro bono case. I believe that every atty is required to do a certain number of hours of pro bono work by the bar association, so go sit in the offices of various attys and see what you can get done that way.</p><p> </p><p>I am very sorry. I think htere are a bunch of cops who are crazy in many depts. Sadly they can become obsessed with someone and behave very dangerously. While most cops are decent, in my opinion, there are enough bad apples and a culture of us against them that makes the crazy cops very dangerous. I hope you can keep your son from having any long term problems. </p><p> </p><p>As your son has diagnosis's of ODD and ADD, the atty needs to know he is not able to watch out for his own interests and you need to be involved. I hope you can work ti out. </p><p></p><p>I think you also need your own atty to file charges and a lawsuit against the officer who harrassed you/abused difficult child. It should ask for a ton of $$ for emotional distress and PTSD (sexual harrassment is very hard to come to terms with, esp if now you will feel unsafe around anyone in a cop uniform because that man's actions. You are supposed to feel SAFER with a cop around, not afraid of being harrassed/violated. in my opinion a man who will sexually harrass a woman is often far closer to molesting or raping a woman than most men are - FAR closer. Personal experience, not research, but it is what I have experienced.) Sue the officer AND the dept for that and it will draw some heat off your son. They will likely want it to all go away - your suit and the issues with your son because it is expensive to investigate and defend such a suit. make any settlement contingent on ALL charges being dropped and a restraining/protective order against the cop so he cannot come near you or your son for any reason.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 425533, member: 1233"] Make super double triple sure that your child knows he is to say NOTHING to the cops other than that he would like to see his lawyer. He has rights, needs to know he can IGNORE ALL questions, statements and threats and is to sign NOTHING without a lawyer and YOU present. If your child asks for YOU then he has the right to have you there for questioning. HE needs to ask the lawyer to let you into the room. You may need your own attorney to help with this. A bad lawyer can be worse than no lawyer. PUSH difficult child to know he is to sign NOTHING until YOU have read and okayed it. He needs to ask for you until the atty starts to let you in. You must work to help him do this. Role play where you are hte atty and where you are the cops pushing him to say and/or sign things. he MUST NOT SIGN OR GIVE ANY VERBAL STATEMENT with-o a good lawyer. It is time to find a private lawyer. Send requests to every lawyer in your area is you cannot afford one. Or take a couple of days off of work (if at all possible) and go to verious law offices and ask to speak to someone about a pro bono case. I believe that every atty is required to do a certain number of hours of pro bono work by the bar association, so go sit in the offices of various attys and see what you can get done that way. I am very sorry. I think htere are a bunch of cops who are crazy in many depts. Sadly they can become obsessed with someone and behave very dangerously. While most cops are decent, in my opinion, there are enough bad apples and a culture of us against them that makes the crazy cops very dangerous. I hope you can keep your son from having any long term problems. As your son has diagnosis's of ODD and ADD, the atty needs to know he is not able to watch out for his own interests and you need to be involved. I hope you can work ti out. I think you also need your own atty to file charges and a lawsuit against the officer who harrassed you/abused difficult child. It should ask for a ton of $$ for emotional distress and PTSD (sexual harrassment is very hard to come to terms with, esp if now you will feel unsafe around anyone in a cop uniform because that man's actions. You are supposed to feel SAFER with a cop around, not afraid of being harrassed/violated. in my opinion a man who will sexually harrass a woman is often far closer to molesting or raping a woman than most men are - FAR closer. Personal experience, not research, but it is what I have experienced.) Sue the officer AND the dept for that and it will draw some heat off your son. They will likely want it to all go away - your suit and the issues with your son because it is expensive to investigate and defend such a suit. make any settlement contingent on ALL charges being dropped and a restraining/protective order against the cop so he cannot come near you or your son for any reason. [/QUOTE]
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