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<blockquote data-quote="SearchingForRainbows" data-source="post: 199798" data-attributes="member: 3388"><p>This is such a difficult issue. difficult child 1 doesn't choose his friends wisely. When he was in the ninth grade, we actually were fearful of one of the kids he hung around with in school. We had to ban all interactions out of school. Now, he has found a small group of, for lack of a better word, "techie geeks" who he hangs around with in school. Outside of school, difficult child 1 is basically a loner. Sadly, he prefers the company of his computer to any human interaction at all.</p><p></p><p>difficult child 2 has NEVER had a real friend in his entire life. When he was young, I arranged play dates for him with my friends' kids. Now, we're fighting our SD for a program which I believe will provide a group of peer (or at least teens who will be tolerant of him) for him. We have our fingers crossed...</p><p></p><p>easy child has made both some good and bad choices over the years. When she was younger, I steered her in the direction of her good choices by encouraging social activities with these kids. Now, she is in her first year of high school and I have to back off. If I push too hard, it will only make her more determined to hang out with kids she knows her parents will not approve of.</p><p></p><p>I think you were given some good advice. Since your kids are younger than mine, you can have their friends over and monitor what they are doing. If you believe a friendship is totally inappropriate, when kids are young, I think it is easier to try to squash it by planning social activities for them with different peers. </p><p></p><p>I think when kids are older, we have to let them make their own decisions. After all, parents don't know anything, lol!!! We're old and totally "clueless", lol!!! I've found the more easy child knows I disapprove of a particular friend, the more she'll want to hang out with her. So, I try to keep my mouth shut. I hope she'll make positive choices. It's hard to watch them grow up... WFEN</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SearchingForRainbows, post: 199798, member: 3388"] This is such a difficult issue. difficult child 1 doesn't choose his friends wisely. When he was in the ninth grade, we actually were fearful of one of the kids he hung around with in school. We had to ban all interactions out of school. Now, he has found a small group of, for lack of a better word, "techie geeks" who he hangs around with in school. Outside of school, difficult child 1 is basically a loner. Sadly, he prefers the company of his computer to any human interaction at all. difficult child 2 has NEVER had a real friend in his entire life. When he was young, I arranged play dates for him with my friends' kids. Now, we're fighting our SD for a program which I believe will provide a group of peer (or at least teens who will be tolerant of him) for him. We have our fingers crossed... easy child has made both some good and bad choices over the years. When she was younger, I steered her in the direction of her good choices by encouraging social activities with these kids. Now, she is in her first year of high school and I have to back off. If I push too hard, it will only make her more determined to hang out with kids she knows her parents will not approve of. I think you were given some good advice. Since your kids are younger than mine, you can have their friends over and monitor what they are doing. If you believe a friendship is totally inappropriate, when kids are young, I think it is easier to try to squash it by planning social activities for them with different peers. I think when kids are older, we have to let them make their own decisions. After all, parents don't know anything, lol!!! We're old and totally "clueless", lol!!! I've found the more easy child knows I disapprove of a particular friend, the more she'll want to hang out with her. So, I try to keep my mouth shut. I hope she'll make positive choices. It's hard to watch them grow up... WFEN [/QUOTE]
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