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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 119209" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>She will run away, break things and blah blah blah - (in parent speak : She will behave like a horses kiester until she gets her way or she will run away) ahhh old habits are so hard to break.</p><p></p><p>LET HER BREAK WHAT SHE WANTS - when she's done - hand her a trash bag and tell her SHE is responsible for hauling it to the curb after she's bagged it up. </p><p></p><p>If she runs away - CALL THE POLICE - and make a run away report - and DO NOT (other than give the cops information) let yourself chase her down, look her up, call her - LET HER GO. </p><p></p><p>If she insists when the police bring her home that she will "Only run again" tell her that is her choice - but usually the second time they run (depending on area) you can file a petition of incorrigibility with your local family court and have her put in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). </p><p></p><p>If she's going to run - she's going to run - you can NOT stop her. </p><p></p><p>You CAN enforce your house rules - NO BOYS, and you COULD get in touch with Gus' mom and tell her that your daughter JUST turned 13....and that this is a powder keg - so ask him to stay away. </p><p></p><p>Offer an alternative - if Gus wants to come to the house - and meet you and your husband and talk with you before he STAYS at the house while you chaperone or /and supervise - you'll think about it. But if the rule is no boys x amt. of years older = then let it go - and let her go too. It's not as fun on the streets as they think it is. And friends parents will only put up with a kid UNTIL the police show up and tell them either the kid comes out to them to go home OR they will be arrested for aiding and abeting/harboring. It IS a punishable offense. </p><p></p><p>ALSO - if she DOES run away - USE the time you have to strip her room of everything and box it up and lock it up - leave her a bed, a blanket and a pillow - if she needs an alarm clock - put it in there - if she breaks it = it will cost her (you decide) to replace it. </p><p></p><p>In this contract you wrote - she has found a loophole - (they kill me all the time they spend looking for the wrong thing could be positive time for something great) but I bet there is no clause in your contract about what happens to her if she runs away.....</p><p></p><p>Now you have a reason to put it in there - and put in the part about all her worldly possessions will be gone. My son's mouth literally fell on the floor - AND we took his door too. When he came home - he could go to his room and.....well sit. </p><p></p><p>Don't be afraid of her - she's certainly got no reason to be fearful of you - you haven't shown her your warrior mom armor. NOW would be a real good time to start. </p><p></p><p>Hugs</p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 119209, member: 4964"] She will run away, break things and blah blah blah - (in parent speak : She will behave like a horses kiester until she gets her way or she will run away) ahhh old habits are so hard to break. LET HER BREAK WHAT SHE WANTS - when she's done - hand her a trash bag and tell her SHE is responsible for hauling it to the curb after she's bagged it up. If she runs away - CALL THE POLICE - and make a run away report - and DO NOT (other than give the cops information) let yourself chase her down, look her up, call her - LET HER GO. If she insists when the police bring her home that she will "Only run again" tell her that is her choice - but usually the second time they run (depending on area) you can file a petition of incorrigibility with your local family court and have her put in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). If she's going to run - she's going to run - you can NOT stop her. You CAN enforce your house rules - NO BOYS, and you COULD get in touch with Gus' mom and tell her that your daughter JUST turned 13....and that this is a powder keg - so ask him to stay away. Offer an alternative - if Gus wants to come to the house - and meet you and your husband and talk with you before he STAYS at the house while you chaperone or /and supervise - you'll think about it. But if the rule is no boys x amt. of years older = then let it go - and let her go too. It's not as fun on the streets as they think it is. And friends parents will only put up with a kid UNTIL the police show up and tell them either the kid comes out to them to go home OR they will be arrested for aiding and abeting/harboring. It IS a punishable offense. ALSO - if she DOES run away - USE the time you have to strip her room of everything and box it up and lock it up - leave her a bed, a blanket and a pillow - if she needs an alarm clock - put it in there - if she breaks it = it will cost her (you decide) to replace it. In this contract you wrote - she has found a loophole - (they kill me all the time they spend looking for the wrong thing could be positive time for something great) but I bet there is no clause in your contract about what happens to her if she runs away..... Now you have a reason to put it in there - and put in the part about all her worldly possessions will be gone. My son's mouth literally fell on the floor - AND we took his door too. When he came home - he could go to his room and.....well sit. Don't be afraid of her - she's certainly got no reason to be fearful of you - you haven't shown her your warrior mom armor. NOW would be a real good time to start. Hugs Star [/QUOTE]
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