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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 119240" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Oh, my. She is certainly trying her best to create drama. I don't know why some children/people thrive on drama. </p><p></p><p>Change the contract. She doesn't have to like it, but it is YOUR home, YOUR parenting, YOUR stuff, YOUR everything. Write in NO dating until age X (and 16 is a pretty good age, in my opinion). Next time she is out of the house go into her room and put any/everything into boxes/trash bags. Might need 2 colors - I remember using white tall kitchen for stuff we kept and big black bags for the stuff we pitched. I also had a box for things to ask questions about (where did he get it, how did he pay for it, why is my X in his room, etc...)</p><p></p><p>She is going to "under 21" clubs at 13 ? This is a really really risky thing. Most people there will NOT be in her age group, they usually cater the the older high school and younger college crowd. NOT NOT NOT 13 yos, no matter what she tells you. I think I would maybe say yes but she has to sit with ME and I will follow her around as she goes anywhere and/or talks to anyone.</p><p></p><p>Youare going to have KABOOM. And unfortunately it will probably NOT be the kind that cleans your bathroom. After you clean her room, and empty it totally, then tell her. Send her to her room to tantrum. And get some wood for that window, she will climb out it, if she hasn't already. My older bro did it at 13 from a 2nd story window with no garage or anything under him to break the fall. </p><p></p><p>The contract may need something about earning her undamaged items back, say after several weeks or a week or whatever she can get 1 item back. </p><p></p><p>The book Love and Logic Parenting and the book Love and Logic Parenting for Teens may help. I strongly recommend them. They really help me keep my cool and get results. The authors do have a book for Special Needs Children, but I forget the title. They also have a website: <a href="http://www.loveandlogic.com" target="_blank">www.loveandlogic.com</a> . It has some great advice, and the free downloads are worth listening to.</p><p></p><p>Hugs, and earplugs for the Kaboom! </p><p></p><p>Susie</p><p></p><p>ps. Maybe on of her consequences for her KABOOM is to use the KABOOM products to clean the bathroom? Just a thought.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 119240, member: 1233"] Oh, my. She is certainly trying her best to create drama. I don't know why some children/people thrive on drama. Change the contract. She doesn't have to like it, but it is YOUR home, YOUR parenting, YOUR stuff, YOUR everything. Write in NO dating until age X (and 16 is a pretty good age, in my opinion). Next time she is out of the house go into her room and put any/everything into boxes/trash bags. Might need 2 colors - I remember using white tall kitchen for stuff we kept and big black bags for the stuff we pitched. I also had a box for things to ask questions about (where did he get it, how did he pay for it, why is my X in his room, etc...) She is going to "under 21" clubs at 13 ? This is a really really risky thing. Most people there will NOT be in her age group, they usually cater the the older high school and younger college crowd. NOT NOT NOT 13 yos, no matter what she tells you. I think I would maybe say yes but she has to sit with ME and I will follow her around as she goes anywhere and/or talks to anyone. Youare going to have KABOOM. And unfortunately it will probably NOT be the kind that cleans your bathroom. After you clean her room, and empty it totally, then tell her. Send her to her room to tantrum. And get some wood for that window, she will climb out it, if she hasn't already. My older bro did it at 13 from a 2nd story window with no garage or anything under him to break the fall. The contract may need something about earning her undamaged items back, say after several weeks or a week or whatever she can get 1 item back. The book Love and Logic Parenting and the book Love and Logic Parenting for Teens may help. I strongly recommend them. They really help me keep my cool and get results. The authors do have a book for Special Needs Children, but I forget the title. They also have a website: [url]www.loveandlogic.com[/url] . It has some great advice, and the free downloads are worth listening to. Hugs, and earplugs for the Kaboom! Susie ps. Maybe on of her consequences for her KABOOM is to use the KABOOM products to clean the bathroom? Just a thought. [/QUOTE]
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