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<blockquote data-quote="JJJ" data-source="post: 404987" data-attributes="member: 1169"><p>Sue,</p><p></p><p>That is how we handled it at the last Residential Treatment Center (RTC). I don't trust this Residential Treatment Center (RTC) enough yet to let them make those decisions. Several times they were suppose to take the fall for an unpopular decision yet someone told or implied to Kanga that it was our objections that stopped her from doing whatever it was.</p><p></p><p>They are also very lax compared to me. They allow these teens with impaired reality/impulse control issues/explosive aggression to do many things that would never be allowed in a normal home. </p><p></p><p>The "passes" are something that girls on her behavior level can get -- normally it wouldn't involve any parental input. The only reason Kanga is not being allowed the passes is due to her protection plan. Staff is not 100% behind keeping the protection plan in place so it is my refusal to allow it to be dropped that is stopping her 'dreams of freedom'. Sadly at her last quarterly review, staff was pretty clear that the plan is down to its minimal levels and that it is staying in place due in large part to me.</p><p></p><p>This is the problem with her moving cottages -- the staff at this cottage are 'positive' that she never would have fooled them. There is also an uncomfortable undecurrent of disrespect between the cottage staff and the school staff and the cottage staff blames alot on the school staff. It frustrates me to no end.</p><p></p><p>I get that Kanga is going to be a legal adult in 615 very short days. But I also get that criminal activity in those 615 days is going to give me issues. I think we are pretty well protected from lawsuits, etc by the fact that she is in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and we're poor -lol. She is very lucky that none of the 3 times that she committed a crime that the parents of those youth chose to press charges. Out in the real world, she is not going to be so lucky. She could have spent those 615 days in juvenile hall instead of Residential Treatment Center (RTC).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JJJ, post: 404987, member: 1169"] Sue, That is how we handled it at the last Residential Treatment Center (RTC). I don't trust this Residential Treatment Center (RTC) enough yet to let them make those decisions. Several times they were suppose to take the fall for an unpopular decision yet someone told or implied to Kanga that it was our objections that stopped her from doing whatever it was. They are also very lax compared to me. They allow these teens with impaired reality/impulse control issues/explosive aggression to do many things that would never be allowed in a normal home. The "passes" are something that girls on her behavior level can get -- normally it wouldn't involve any parental input. The only reason Kanga is not being allowed the passes is due to her protection plan. Staff is not 100% behind keeping the protection plan in place so it is my refusal to allow it to be dropped that is stopping her 'dreams of freedom'. Sadly at her last quarterly review, staff was pretty clear that the plan is down to its minimal levels and that it is staying in place due in large part to me. This is the problem with her moving cottages -- the staff at this cottage are 'positive' that she never would have fooled them. There is also an uncomfortable undecurrent of disrespect between the cottage staff and the school staff and the cottage staff blames alot on the school staff. It frustrates me to no end. I get that Kanga is going to be a legal adult in 615 very short days. But I also get that criminal activity in those 615 days is going to give me issues. I think we are pretty well protected from lawsuits, etc by the fact that she is in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and we're poor -lol. She is very lucky that none of the 3 times that she committed a crime that the parents of those youth chose to press charges. Out in the real world, she is not going to be so lucky. She could have spent those 615 days in juvenile hall instead of Residential Treatment Center (RTC). [/QUOTE]
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