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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 151502" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>We did remove difficult child's door to her bedroom and we also removed all the contents except her bed and dresser. It helped in some ways, she wasn't slamming the door any longer and ripping the moulding off the doorway, we could see what she was doing in there, although we did hand a blanket over the doorway for privacy, and she no longer had any of her favorite things to play with. We gave her the conditions and time frame for earning them back and she eventually did.</p><p></p><p>At the time there really was nothing else we could do. Her behavior was so out of control that something had to make her think. Just recently we took her car and driving privileges away for two months. She has to learn that if her behavior is unacceptable she looses her freedoms. That's what will happen in society when she turns 18.</p><p></p><p>I don't advocate corporal punishment at all, in fact all the police we have ever dealt with told us it was permissible and we have told them we believe that only escalates the behavior.</p><p></p><p>I so understand your pain. I have counted down the days until my difficult child will be 18 so many times just to show myself that an end is in sight. We are in the home stretch as she will be 18 in 13 months. I'm not naive enough to think our troubles are over but at least we have more options. </p><p></p><p>I hope you can get your husband to soften a little, not give in, just soften the approach. I found 13 to be a very very difficult age.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 151502, member: 59"] We did remove difficult child's door to her bedroom and we also removed all the contents except her bed and dresser. It helped in some ways, she wasn't slamming the door any longer and ripping the moulding off the doorway, we could see what she was doing in there, although we did hand a blanket over the doorway for privacy, and she no longer had any of her favorite things to play with. We gave her the conditions and time frame for earning them back and she eventually did. At the time there really was nothing else we could do. Her behavior was so out of control that something had to make her think. Just recently we took her car and driving privileges away for two months. She has to learn that if her behavior is unacceptable she looses her freedoms. That's what will happen in society when she turns 18. I don't advocate corporal punishment at all, in fact all the police we have ever dealt with told us it was permissible and we have told them we believe that only escalates the behavior. I so understand your pain. I have counted down the days until my difficult child will be 18 so many times just to show myself that an end is in sight. We are in the home stretch as she will be 18 in 13 months. I'm not naive enough to think our troubles are over but at least we have more options. I hope you can get your husband to soften a little, not give in, just soften the approach. I found 13 to be a very very difficult age. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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