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<blockquote data-quote="katya02" data-source="post: 205299" data-attributes="member: 2884"><p>Yes, when he's not angry difficult child is perfectly rational. Even when he's angry I'm not convinced he completely loses his ability to think logically; he's told his younger brother about times where he got really emotional (tearful) to the point where he was 'sort of into it' but it was done to get out of a punishment. I think he can also control the anger, he just doesn't always choose to. He's always had the ability to switch off, once he's got everyone else in an uproar, and become calm and even cheerful.</p><p></p><p>I used to think he didn't really remember his rages, or didn't understand how intense they were. I now think he just doesn't care. He probably doesn't see them as intense or harmful to others, but it's more a lack of empathy than a lack of executive brain function (unless empathy can be classed as an executive function!).</p><p></p><p>I think he does show borderline traits; but I'm beginning to be unsure whether he's more antisocial. He's not a classic violent criminal antisocial personality, but he fits some of the noncriminal/petty criminal subtypes that are more lazy and manipulative, but still have no conscience. I suppose it's not critical which it is. </p><p></p><p>He started therapy with a local therapist who sees dual diagnosis and borderline patients, and is now refusing to go, saying the guy only talks to him about water sports and his wine collection. I rather doubt that, but I can't force him to go. I can, however, make up another contract in collaboration with the rehab counselors, and that's the plan for tomorrow. husband and I are supposed to meet with them and work out some ideas, then we'll have another family meeting and go over everything with difficult child. That's where he'll be told he has to investigate his Plan B options. Should be a joyful meeting, not!! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite7" alt=":p" title="Stick Out Tongue :p" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":p" /></p><p></p><p>Meanwhile he had one job 'interview' at a local gas bar, where he had to take a computer personality/morals test that asked questions like, 'Is it ok to come in to work hung over?' and 'If an employee steals $10 from the till and it's a first offense, what should be done: a) nothing, b) reprimand, c) suspend without pay, d) fire the employee.' He's so sure he'll get this job that he's stopped looking for anything else. We'll see ... it will be interesting to see whether he passes or fails the test. It provides information either way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="katya02, post: 205299, member: 2884"] Yes, when he's not angry difficult child is perfectly rational. Even when he's angry I'm not convinced he completely loses his ability to think logically; he's told his younger brother about times where he got really emotional (tearful) to the point where he was 'sort of into it' but it was done to get out of a punishment. I think he can also control the anger, he just doesn't always choose to. He's always had the ability to switch off, once he's got everyone else in an uproar, and become calm and even cheerful. I used to think he didn't really remember his rages, or didn't understand how intense they were. I now think he just doesn't care. He probably doesn't see them as intense or harmful to others, but it's more a lack of empathy than a lack of executive brain function (unless empathy can be classed as an executive function!). I think he does show borderline traits; but I'm beginning to be unsure whether he's more antisocial. He's not a classic violent criminal antisocial personality, but he fits some of the noncriminal/petty criminal subtypes that are more lazy and manipulative, but still have no conscience. I suppose it's not critical which it is. He started therapy with a local therapist who sees dual diagnosis and borderline patients, and is now refusing to go, saying the guy only talks to him about water sports and his wine collection. I rather doubt that, but I can't force him to go. I can, however, make up another contract in collaboration with the rehab counselors, and that's the plan for tomorrow. husband and I are supposed to meet with them and work out some ideas, then we'll have another family meeting and go over everything with difficult child. That's where he'll be told he has to investigate his Plan B options. Should be a joyful meeting, not!! :p Meanwhile he had one job 'interview' at a local gas bar, where he had to take a computer personality/morals test that asked questions like, 'Is it ok to come in to work hung over?' and 'If an employee steals $10 from the till and it's a first offense, what should be done: a) nothing, b) reprimand, c) suspend without pay, d) fire the employee.' He's so sure he'll get this job that he's stopped looking for anything else. We'll see ... it will be interesting to see whether he passes or fails the test. It provides information either way. [/QUOTE]
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