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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 364434" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Shari, I can see why you are concerned. In many ways Wee seems very slow to grasp that other people have feelings, much less how his actions impact their feelings. NOT that he isn't loving, but that something in his brain seems to be wired such that it is really hard for him to "get" these ideas.</p><p></p><p>I can see it taking quite a few times for him to learn that he cannot make certain moves or do certain things to or near an animal because he might hurt it. He may not be able to connect hitting an animal to the animal dying. If someone hits him he doesn't die, so why would it be different for an animal? Did he throw other things at the barn or beat on the barn with other things? I wonder if he really understood that animals can hurt? Or if he really even understood that the chicken was alive like people are, rather than working like a battery operated toy? Toys don't have feelings so it doesn't matter if you throw them against something. When the toy breaks you get rid of it and get another one. Or more batteries. Chances are that at 3 or 4 he didn't understand the difference between battery operated moving and talking toys and animals that move and make noise. I would see it as part of his other problems. </p><p></p><p>I am not 100% sure Wee can link his actions with hurting or killing the animal. His grasp of death may be rather tenuous which would contribute. Even living on a farm and/or raising animals for food doesn't mean he can make the connection easily.</p><p></p><p>I hope this says what I am trying to communicate. It is hard to get the idea out of my head through my fingers right now.</p><p></p><p>As for hugging a pet to death, I think it happens more often than we know. The child wants to show how much they love the animal by giving it a big hug. When they hug a person the person just hugs them back. They don't understand how easy it is to hurt an animal with-o meaning to. They don't understand that they could "kill" the pet, or even what "kill" means. One of my little cousins did this. He kept expecting to see the cat around the house. A few days later his parents realized he truly didn't have a clue about what happened. So they switched to "breaking" the cat. When toys broke they were gone for good unless the "toy doctor" could help them. Sometimes the doctor couldn't. When he connected what he did to the cat with the idea of a broken toy he was broken hearted.</p><p></p><p>I doubt that many experts would see a child hugging a pet to death as a sign of serious problems ahead unless it happened over and over. Or if the child was developmentally delayed or otherwise mentally handicapped.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 364434, member: 1233"] Shari, I can see why you are concerned. In many ways Wee seems very slow to grasp that other people have feelings, much less how his actions impact their feelings. NOT that he isn't loving, but that something in his brain seems to be wired such that it is really hard for him to "get" these ideas. I can see it taking quite a few times for him to learn that he cannot make certain moves or do certain things to or near an animal because he might hurt it. He may not be able to connect hitting an animal to the animal dying. If someone hits him he doesn't die, so why would it be different for an animal? Did he throw other things at the barn or beat on the barn with other things? I wonder if he really understood that animals can hurt? Or if he really even understood that the chicken was alive like people are, rather than working like a battery operated toy? Toys don't have feelings so it doesn't matter if you throw them against something. When the toy breaks you get rid of it and get another one. Or more batteries. Chances are that at 3 or 4 he didn't understand the difference between battery operated moving and talking toys and animals that move and make noise. I would see it as part of his other problems. I am not 100% sure Wee can link his actions with hurting or killing the animal. His grasp of death may be rather tenuous which would contribute. Even living on a farm and/or raising animals for food doesn't mean he can make the connection easily. I hope this says what I am trying to communicate. It is hard to get the idea out of my head through my fingers right now. As for hugging a pet to death, I think it happens more often than we know. The child wants to show how much they love the animal by giving it a big hug. When they hug a person the person just hugs them back. They don't understand how easy it is to hurt an animal with-o meaning to. They don't understand that they could "kill" the pet, or even what "kill" means. One of my little cousins did this. He kept expecting to see the cat around the house. A few days later his parents realized he truly didn't have a clue about what happened. So they switched to "breaking" the cat. When toys broke they were gone for good unless the "toy doctor" could help them. Sometimes the doctor couldn't. When he connected what he did to the cat with the idea of a broken toy he was broken hearted. I doubt that many experts would see a child hugging a pet to death as a sign of serious problems ahead unless it happened over and over. Or if the child was developmentally delayed or otherwise mentally handicapped. [/QUOTE]
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