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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 620464" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>thanks to all of you who keep writing and giving me support and things to think about.</p><p></p><p>He is incessantly calling, texting and FB messaging me this morning. I have not responded.</p><p></p><p>He is pulling out the stops: He hasn't had his antidepressant since Thursday and he is "starting to feel depressed...really depressed...don't think I can take it."</p><p></p><p>I am reminded that difficult child knows about doctors and hospitals and can seek treatment if he feels bad. </p><p></p><p>I am sure he is starting to feel the effects of not having his AD---you can't go cold turkey on Effexor---your head feels really strange if you do. but I doubt seriously he is feeling depressed after three days' missed dosage.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, I have written this letter and posted it on my front door if he comes here:</p><p></p><p>February 17, 2014</p><p></p><p>difficult child:</p><p></p><p>Here are my rules.</p><p></p><p>· Do not come to my house again without an invitation.</p><p></p><p>· Do not knock on my door. Do not stay here. Leave now or I will call the police. </p><p></p><p>· If you need medical treatment, go to the hospital.</p><p></p><p>· Stop texting me. I am not going to respond.</p><p></p><p>· Do not keep calling me. I am not going to answer. </p><p></p><p>· You can call me on Saturday morning Feb. 22 between 10 and 11 a.m. I will talk to you for no more than 10 minutes. If you keep on with<u> anything</u>---like asking for money, a place to live, a ride---I will get off the phone. I will not answer any more calls until the following Saturday March 1, between 10 and 11 a.m.</p><p></p><p>I am not giving you any money or taking you anywhere.</p><p></p><p><strong><u>Your life---everything about it---is your responsibility. </u></strong></p><p></p><p>Be the person I raised you to be. </p><p></p><p>Respect my rules. If you don’t, there will be no communication at all.</p><p></p><p>I love you.</p><p></p><p>Mom</p><p></p><p>***********************</p><p>I keep having to get more and more direct. Like some here have said, you can't talk to difficult children like you talk to other people. It's too bad, because this sounds kind of mean. But if I am unclear, wishy washy, "mommylike" he goes for the jugular.</p><p></p><p>Ugh.</p><p></p><p>Recovery is hard.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 620464, member: 17542"] thanks to all of you who keep writing and giving me support and things to think about. He is incessantly calling, texting and FB messaging me this morning. I have not responded. He is pulling out the stops: He hasn't had his antidepressant since Thursday and he is "starting to feel depressed...really depressed...don't think I can take it." I am reminded that difficult child knows about doctors and hospitals and can seek treatment if he feels bad. I am sure he is starting to feel the effects of not having his AD---you can't go cold turkey on Effexor---your head feels really strange if you do. but I doubt seriously he is feeling depressed after three days' missed dosage. Anyway, I have written this letter and posted it on my front door if he comes here: February 17, 2014 difficult child: Here are my rules. · Do not come to my house again without an invitation. · Do not knock on my door. Do not stay here. Leave now or I will call the police. · If you need medical treatment, go to the hospital. · Stop texting me. I am not going to respond. · Do not keep calling me. I am not going to answer. · You can call me on Saturday morning Feb. 22 between 10 and 11 a.m. I will talk to you for no more than 10 minutes. If you keep on with[U] anything[/U]---like asking for money, a place to live, a ride---I will get off the phone. I will not answer any more calls until the following Saturday March 1, between 10 and 11 a.m. I am not giving you any money or taking you anywhere. [B][U]Your life---everything about it---is your responsibility. [/U][/B] Be the person I raised you to be. Respect my rules. If you don’t, there will be no communication at all. I love you. Mom *********************** I keep having to get more and more direct. Like some here have said, you can't talk to difficult children like you talk to other people. It's too bad, because this sounds kind of mean. But if I am unclear, wishy washy, "mommylike" he goes for the jugular. Ugh. Recovery is hard. [/QUOTE]
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