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<blockquote data-quote="busywend" data-source="post: 512277" data-attributes="member: 391"><p>I know this is not going to be popular with you and others. </p><p></p><p>Taking her musical instruments away? I do not see how that is productive in any way. I think this is one way to keep her involved in school events and not out drugging with someone out of high school. One way to give her some childhood memories that she can look back on and enjoy. Heck, I would not even require the good grades to go to this school event. </p><p></p><p>Her letter is not borderline - it is a frustrated angry girl spewing words to her parents that she hates at the moment. Totally normal reaction to me. </p><p>I also think many PCs do the sneaking out thing....it is a whole lot more scary when it is a difficult child sneaking out because we know so much more can happen. I don't understand why you did not confront her with what she was doing? When she said she missed the bus, you could explain the bus showed up and you were already gone. </p><p></p><p>Think back to when you were a teen. Didn't you sneak out? What was your mother's reaction? I bet she was not as involved in the details as we are today. I learned the hard way that it is truly OK to not know my child's every move. In fact, when I stepped back is when I started learning more from her about herself. </p><p></p><p>I am starting to worry about your feelings towards your daughter. I think you are resenting her more and more. I think Slsh is right - step back and let husband do it. See if you can get in a fun night in the next few weeks with just you and difficult child. I think you need to reconnect. </p><p></p><p>Again, I am sorry to everyone who disagrees with me. But, I could not live with myself if I did not say it here and now. </p><p>I only post out of caring, so please nobody read this with anger, hate or any other negative feeling. It is not meant to be negative.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="busywend, post: 512277, member: 391"] I know this is not going to be popular with you and others. Taking her musical instruments away? I do not see how that is productive in any way. I think this is one way to keep her involved in school events and not out drugging with someone out of high school. One way to give her some childhood memories that she can look back on and enjoy. Heck, I would not even require the good grades to go to this school event. Her letter is not borderline - it is a frustrated angry girl spewing words to her parents that she hates at the moment. Totally normal reaction to me. I also think many PCs do the sneaking out thing....it is a whole lot more scary when it is a difficult child sneaking out because we know so much more can happen. I don't understand why you did not confront her with what she was doing? When she said she missed the bus, you could explain the bus showed up and you were already gone. Think back to when you were a teen. Didn't you sneak out? What was your mother's reaction? I bet she was not as involved in the details as we are today. I learned the hard way that it is truly OK to not know my child's every move. In fact, when I stepped back is when I started learning more from her about herself. I am starting to worry about your feelings towards your daughter. I think you are resenting her more and more. I think Slsh is right - step back and let husband do it. See if you can get in a fun night in the next few weeks with just you and difficult child. I think you need to reconnect. Again, I am sorry to everyone who disagrees with me. But, I could not live with myself if I did not say it here and now. I only post out of caring, so please nobody read this with anger, hate or any other negative feeling. It is not meant to be negative. [/QUOTE]
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