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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 640733" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>I agree.</p><p></p><p>Rather than praising his accomplishments, whatever they are and wherever he takes his life from here, I would model an "attitude of gratitude" for him. "So pleased for you that you have taken the first steps toward independence, toward real manhood."</p><p></p><p>Though we often feel powerless, the expectations we hold of our children form the basis not only of their expectations of themselves, but of our expectations for them going forward. Whatever your child's problems, he will need to come to terms with them before he can live his life fully and well. </p><p></p><p>And whatever his problems, you will need a place to stand, a set of expectations to parent from, as the years unfold.</p><p></p><p>It was your insistence that he could do this that got him started down this positive path. I think it would be a mistake to praise him for his accomplishments. Though we all like to hear "Good job!", we also know very well when we deserve that or not.</p><p></p><p>Let your praise come when you are truly impressed with some extraordinary thing he has accomplished.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 640733, member: 17461"] I agree. Rather than praising his accomplishments, whatever they are and wherever he takes his life from here, I would model an "attitude of gratitude" for him. "So pleased for you that you have taken the first steps toward independence, toward real manhood." Though we often feel powerless, the expectations we hold of our children form the basis not only of their expectations of themselves, but of our expectations for them going forward. Whatever your child's problems, he will need to come to terms with them before he can live his life fully and well. And whatever his problems, you will need a place to stand, a set of expectations to parent from, as the years unfold. It was your insistence that he could do this that got him started down this positive path. I think it would be a mistake to praise him for his accomplishments. Though we all like to hear "Good job!", we also know very well when we deserve that or not. Let your praise come when you are truly impressed with some extraordinary thing he has accomplished. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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