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Learning how to live with guilt
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<blockquote data-quote="Fancy" data-source="post: 240245" data-attributes="member: 6691"><p>I want to thank everyone for their support, it helps to know that I'm not alone in these situations. Here is some history:</p><p>I was a single mother raising 2 daughters, divorced because of my husbands drug issues etc...he had no contact with the girls while they were growing up. My youngest became lazier and lazier as she got older, skipping school, smoking pot, and developed this attitude that everone should bow at her feet simply because she existed. Her sister was very responsible and hard working, causing her to become impatient with the youngest's behaviour. Eventually the youngest began using Cocaine as well. Upon giving her an ultimatum to either change her behaviour or move out, I was forced to ask her to move out. Since then, her behavious has worsened, she's moved across the country to stay with family, which didn't work out and they asked her to move out as well. </p><p>Now, I don't know where she's staying, I hear from her only sporadically, and I feel guilty that I won't allow her to come home, guilty that as her mother I should be able to 'fix' things for her, and very guilty at how angry I am at her. I understand logically that the choice has to be hers, however my logical brain is fighting against my mother's instincts to just hug her until the hurt stops.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fancy, post: 240245, member: 6691"] I want to thank everyone for their support, it helps to know that I'm not alone in these situations. Here is some history: I was a single mother raising 2 daughters, divorced because of my husbands drug issues etc...he had no contact with the girls while they were growing up. My youngest became lazier and lazier as she got older, skipping school, smoking pot, and developed this attitude that everone should bow at her feet simply because she existed. Her sister was very responsible and hard working, causing her to become impatient with the youngest's behaviour. Eventually the youngest began using Cocaine as well. Upon giving her an ultimatum to either change her behaviour or move out, I was forced to ask her to move out. Since then, her behavious has worsened, she's moved across the country to stay with family, which didn't work out and they asked her to move out as well. Now, I don't know where she's staying, I hear from her only sporadically, and I feel guilty that I won't allow her to come home, guilty that as her mother I should be able to 'fix' things for her, and very guilty at how angry I am at her. I understand logically that the choice has to be hers, however my logical brain is fighting against my mother's instincts to just hug her until the hurt stops. [/QUOTE]
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