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Learning how to live with guilt
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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 242204" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>How about I send YOU a hug? I do understand how you feel... I have two stepchildren right now and it is all I can do sometimes not to get angry. When I do anything at all for myself I feel guilty that I am not doing something for them. Unfortunately it's been a real roller coaster since their mother is not paying child support right now and I just can't afford to buy the things they want. Thanks to a lot of past history my husband is currently unemployed, though his small business if finally starting to pick up. I rationally know that it's not my job to pay for everything they need but if I don't, no one will, and I love them even with the laziness, disrespect, and bad treatment! So keep this in mind, since I have learned to: Take care of yourself, first. When you are in a position where you are taken care of, then you can try to help the children. If you're in bad shape, you won't be able to help so much. And it is so easy to say don't feel guilty but it's really hard to do. Good luck. Also maybe there is a counselor you could see (for yourself) every few weeks just to talk out the issues? It's helped me a lot. I don't have a psychologist, just an LPC.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 242204, member: 6705"] How about I send YOU a hug? I do understand how you feel... I have two stepchildren right now and it is all I can do sometimes not to get angry. When I do anything at all for myself I feel guilty that I am not doing something for them. Unfortunately it's been a real roller coaster since their mother is not paying child support right now and I just can't afford to buy the things they want. Thanks to a lot of past history my husband is currently unemployed, though his small business if finally starting to pick up. I rationally know that it's not my job to pay for everything they need but if I don't, no one will, and I love them even with the laziness, disrespect, and bad treatment! So keep this in mind, since I have learned to: Take care of yourself, first. When you are in a position where you are taken care of, then you can try to help the children. If you're in bad shape, you won't be able to help so much. And it is so easy to say don't feel guilty but it's really hard to do. Good luck. Also maybe there is a counselor you could see (for yourself) every few weeks just to talk out the issues? It's helped me a lot. I don't have a psychologist, just an LPC. [/QUOTE]
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